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Children Growing Up in the Garden

Pamela Dysinger

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Whether you are a parent, grandparent or teacher, come learn how to bring delight to your children in the garden while increasing involvement, responsibility and privilege. 

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Pamela Dysinger

Bountiful Blessings Farm

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  • January 18, 2018
    10:45 AM

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Dear Heavenly Father we thank you so much for the opportunity and the privilege to come together and to talk about gardening and the role that it plays in family and the blessing it is to children to be raised in the garden and Lord I just pray that as I share that you would speak through me that you would. Put the words in my mouth that would be a blessing to the here in Jesus name I pray man. I wish that. When I was in Caroline or Cherie's shoes with little ones that I had had a bigger vision of the blessings of. Growing children in the garden and so I stand before us someone who has grown children in the garden and didn't always see it as a huge blessing I always knew it was a blessing but I didn't have the full picture as much as I do today and so. That's just a little bit about me. Here's mostly the children that I grew in the garden. Our family is comprised of myself and my husband John we have one daughter she looks like the youngest but she's actually the oldest. She is married to Nick connect standing behind her and then we have Jonathan who's next to me and next to him Jonathan has farmers friend which is a wonderful business supporting farmers today Joshua is our farmer he's farming full time with us in fact right now he's doing all our winter production next to him is Zach he's our technology man I mean he got me all set up he let me use his computer but he's into small engine repair and in front is Arca. Caleb who is fourteen and he is a lover of the out of doors and a lover of woodworking he is very gifted at that and as it would. Appear our family is growing and as mice there's a few extra girls that are appearing in the pictures that's really warms my heart so Joshua on the right is going to be marrying Kelly connect on June ten who is sister to my son in law. So the family's not spreading that much and Jonathan also has a special friend so that's a little bit about us. So I want to share with you this quote fathers and mothers let your children learn from the flowers. Take them with you into the garden and field and under the leafy tree and teach them to read in nature the message of God's love let fots of him be linked with bird and flower and tree lead the children to see and every pleasant and beautiful thing an expression of God's love for them recommend your religion to them by its pleasant ness let the law of kindness be in your lips. So the part I want you to take note of as teach them to read in nature the message of God's love now just want to and courage those who are coming in if you would come to the center part this is a very wide room. So. How many of you when you're in nature have disciplined your mind to actually see the messages of God's love good for you it's not easy I'm just going. To be honest when I'm in the garden I'm a pretty driven person and I'm a pretty focused person and I'm a very task oriented person so when I'm in the garden I'm thinking we're here to weed and that's what I see and that's what you know how fast can we get to the end of the row so for me it has taken a little bit of discipline to train the mind. To read in nature the message of God's love so now I'm going to give you a little bit of a an opportunity OK. I want to ask you what message of love do you see in that picture. What message of God's love do you see do you know what that is part of. It's a we need it so we need but you know what Mrs White says on every Speier of grass we can learn something about God's love for us so I want to I'll just repeat but any brave soul who could throw out an idea of what we could learn as a message from God OK Sherry will take very good so in this picture of a we need that is really about ready to cast all of those we've seen. She's thinking of it as Ha wow that's how God's love is transferred now that would be a wonderful thing to teach our children in the garden but most of us look at that and think oh no no this thing is going to go to seed and you know what all these seeds you know what there's a saying in farming one year's seeding is seven years reading. That is a true statement one year seeding is seven years I mean one year seeding is seven years weeding so we can look at that and for those of us who like grow things for a living we can look at that weed and be very quick to see the seeding part of it and not the. God's love spreading OK one more. OK. OK. Yes. OK so the picture has a it's I don't know what kind of weed it is but it's just a weed and it has all these little seed all these little hairs and because it's backlit those hairs are looking very golden and beautiful aren't they which is a representation of the the fine beauty of God's character very good we're going to skip through because we're not going to have time for all of them but I have a couple that I want to what about this one not that one this one on the bottom here. Does anyone know what that is. Pardon it's. I think that it's a kind of a regular a read but I'm not positive Actually I'm a cedar but I'm not the I'm not always the brains behind it but I thought that was an interesting picture what could we take away about God's love from that leaf that has these veins of red. Did I hear someone. Life is in the blood. Any other thoughts. Whose life is in the blood. Do we need to be like that leaf. If we don't have Christ's blood flowing through the veins in our body we can recover produce any good fruit for the kingdom so one more I could do this all day because to me this is just where it's at look at that me can you see what that is I want to hear from a child what is that picture. Till carrots does that look like to carrots why they're just twisted around each other now I want to hear this time from a child what can we learn about God's love for us or his character from that picture of those carrots any child brave enough to. To share a thought I know there are some adults who could quickly. It's terrible to put children on the spot it takes a very gregarious and outgoing child to be put on the squad. And my children would have melted under the seat so I don't know why I even put kids OK So let's hear from the adults what can we learn about God's love for us or his character from those two carrots that are so perfectly in twine. It's all encompassing his love wraps around us if we abide in the vine it's more than just being connected All right here's another quote let the mother take her children with her into the field or garden and from the things of nature draw lessons that will point them to nature's God and aid them in the struggle against evil do you want to aid your children in the struggle against evil get them in the garden and while you're there don't forget that you're there to learn about God's love and this is not just for children this is for all of us but this is specifically about children so the theory is wonderful and good but I just want to bring it right down to the practical and I hope we'll have a few minutes at the end too if you have any questions or any thoughts so we're going to start when would you start and I I would say you start when you're pregnant I would say you start before you're pregnant but because this is about children I'm going to say start when you're pregnant why. Because it's a way of life if you don't have this way of life in place when you're pregnant what are the chances that when you have a newborn you're going to be in the garden no you're going to be thinking I don't have time for that all they need their nap they need this they need that no start when you're pregnant when you're in the garden focusing on God's love that feeling of love that you feel from the Lord is going to just transmit to that baby. You want them to be comfortable in the garden before they're born and then after they're born who ever thought of nap time in the garden Well I did a blanket under a tree I was a big believer that children should learn to sleep in many different scenarios that sleep should not be. Regimented to a bed in a dark room if you teach a child to sleep with noise or in varied circumstances they're going to be really good sleepers so I would often I mean a blanket under the tree worked well I would often take I had the you know the little car seat carriers when they're infants and I would just take it and sit it in the garden and I'd talk to them while I would work or you know and our first to let me say this my raising children in the garden really started when my oldest two were about. Maybe two and four. So we didn't we had gardens but not as much when when the first two when I was pregnant with them we didn't have a garden. So naptimes can be in the garden toddlers are helpers in training. Toddlers are helpers in training you might think they're not doing anything to help you and you know what they might not be doing anything to help you in fact they might be doing something to hinder your work but you have to think long term you have to think this is an investment you know if we thought of it like money you know people put their money in and they invest their money well do they see that money grow overnight not usually not usually usually investments take a long time to mature will children take a long time to mature it's a it's an investment. So working toy. I mean this was easy for us because we had boys so trucks but even our daughter loved the trucks not only does it provide work but it provides play when they can have a break from work and so the same thing that provides play is something that can help them work you see them the connection the play and work are not that far apart. This picture is our youngest Caleb and he has in the back of his little gator two pints of strawberries Now when we come to the from the field carrying strawberries we carry a minimum of sixteen pints. So it would be easy to say well this is not going to do any good and he's going to run over a rock and the strawberries are going to be bruised you know sometimes the strawberries he would bring from the field would just have to go into the second spin but he didn't know that I didn't tell him oh you ruined these berries. So wherever you can so there are three I'm going to propose that there are three stages one is involvement. Involvement grows to responsibility and responsibility grows to privilege now we didn't exactly probably do it as I would do it if we were just a home garden you know because we were market gardening and that's a little bit different. But it's not all that different so in the first stage it's all about involvement well that starts when they're really young like that picture of Caleb carrying those two pints of strawberries that's involvement you're involving them in what you're doing so one way you can involve them when they're big enough to handle a tool is get them their own tools and don't get them toy tools I mean there are good tools out there for children with wooden handles and metal heads our kids we had a little shovel a little hollow a little ray. I don't remember if we had a wheelbarrow but I've seen little metal wheelbarrows So get your children tools that are appropriate to the trade get them in the garden get them their own tools and then teach them the proper care of tools teach them that those tools have a place that they need to be put in that place and that they should be put away clean you don't put your tools away covered with dirt put them away clean so that they're ready to use the next time. Not that we did all these perfectly let me just interject that it's a learning curve and I was just in in that the leaning and efficiency class which I love that topic and I wished we had known and had a little bit more input on those things early on but it's a process you grow and today we put our tools away clean. Right involve them in every far of the process so you don't just say OK come in and see that's the fun part you know but there's seeding and there's weeding and there's pruning and there's. Harvesting. And there's planting. So this is a picture of John with our two younger ones that can Caleb and you know we would set it out and again you know Caleb was probably about maybe three in that picture but you know old enough and big enough to plant and you might have to come back behind and do a little bit to help and and that row is not. Ten feet long that row was probably one hundred fifty feet long so you know you're talking about and we would say when you get done when we finish this row Well I'm getting ahead of myself so. Involve them in every part of the process you want to work together. This is not a stage when you say. Go to the garden and we'd. Landen go to the garden and it doesn't work out why does it Mel it doesn't you have to be there with them you get down and not only are you then working with them but that is your opportunity to talk that is your opportunity to teach them hey what do you think that this you know this means what can we learn from God's love from this and there's other things that happened there that I'm not going to mention in this class I'm going to mention in the one that the original classroom OK this is the original classroom and we need to leverage it for everything we can academically So when you work with your children you have a tremendous opportunity to tie their heartstrings and I can tell you that we have a lot of happy memories of just work. King with our kids in the garden and it's been as our farm has changed and we have had many more people apprentices with us working we have kind of lost that opportunity to work so much one on one but so thankful that when our kids were little That's how it was you know that change didn't happen until they were in their teens and so you know you just have to recognize these young years are so precious and they go so fast and the garden is the most wonderful place you know I'm not I was not one who had the ability to be. A mom who took her kids to the park to play or took her kids to the library or took her kids to those zoo or took her kids to you know all these fun things that many moms do today this was our fun this I didn't have the money to do those things I did not have the time to do those things and at times I felt deprived and neglected shame because God's ways are so much better and I can tell you from where I stand the best place to have your children is in the garden it it's free it's work it's play you teach them industry you teach them orderliness you teach them all of these things that are going to make them. Amazing adults that you and others will enjoy. So it's a time when the involvement stage should not just be like when they're little it should extend into as long as it can but they do grow to be more responsible parents it will pay to expend a small sum yearly in purchasing flower seeds and shrubs we have purchased these of James Vic's Vic Rochester New York and have felt more than satisfied with the means we've invested you should help your children to arrange their gardens tastefully and then assist them in planting their seeds and shrubs. I just want to grab that quote is not one that I ever read but this is the compilation that my husband put together councils on agriculture he took everything back to the original sources and so we found in that some amazing gems and I'll say this is a book that you read from the back first this quote is taken from a chapter in the back titled Mrs White Lead by example it is the best is so inspiring if you don't know about her gardening practices you will be shocked she loved flowers she loved flower gardening that was her passion and even when she was older and she had a lot of people working in her home she had a little plot of ground for each of her secretaries or people who and they worked their own little gardens she didn't just. Preach it she actually lived it so that is you know there's also a section in here on guard on the family in agriculture. Inspiring it's inspired me I wished I had had that as a resource to be inspired by you know you only have so much time we did a lot of study obviously it was our study that catapulted us and propelled us into agriculture. But there's so much there I mean. This is a wealth of quotes and we hadn't begun to scratch the surface when we were when we were young and starting with our children so it was very interesting I had to do research then James Vick Have you ever heard of that seed company. So I wanted to know wonder what feed company is that seed companies still in operation how many of you have ever heard of Burpee seeds. So they bought James Vick of Rochester New York the seed company back in the early one nine hundred so very interesting. We had the privilege of. Being in Australia the end of November for the first agriculture conference there and my my one I'm not a bucket list person but one thing I said I don't care if I do anything else but I want to go to Sunny Side and I want to see where Mrs White lived there so fascinating she was a lover of beauty the simple the beautiful the gardens that would have been in place now you know are largely gone but. The placement of her house artistically done. Can't can't help but believe that came from. Her many hours spent in the garden surrounded by her flowers. So Stage two is responsibility and that I you notice I'm not putting any age because that So depends on the child I have some children that I. I couldn't have sent them to the garden to work in their early teens and thought and thought they would have stuck to it you know and I had I've had some that at a very young age have been able to really be independent and focused and responsible so. It's an age when they are able to be to work independently so that's that varies. You'd give them their own section of the garden not to say that this couldn't happen earlier but I think of it as a time when they're responsible now they've shown that they can work with you and they've learned enough now they can be responsible they can take their own section. They tend and keep it from seeding it to harvesting and then I would say beyond harvesting there's a lot that happens because beyond harvesting you have. Preservation you can't eat it all if you have any size garden you're going to have access so you have to figure out something to do with it and I'm just going to interject right now because I don't want to forget one of the wonderful things you can do with extra produce is take it to your neighbors if you don't know your neighbors it is like the open door to getting to know them and when we have excesses on the farm often we do it on Sabbath because there is no other time when we would have time but we pile all our excess boxes in the back of the truck and we set on the bumper and we drive down to the neighbors and we say could you all use any fresh produce and we have neighbors that are extremely deprived and improv years where we live and maybe some by their own choices but the point is they're in need and it has been an opening wedge for us. We always go around at Thanksgiving time and. Or not Thanksgiving at Christmas and sing hymns and give them bread Well I just believe because we've had a lot of opening wedges this year one of our neighbors met us and said I have something for you this year now mind you they have no idea when we're coming and she had that day baked cookies she had a whole gallon bag of cookies that she was so happy to give us something back another one of our neighbors. Whose health is just very very bad but we've never been able to kind of hurdle that because. You don't just go up to somebody and say hey you know I really have noticed that you could stand to lose a few hundred pounds and you know I like to help you with that you know now but but this time when we went around the wife was on the porch and she just opened her heart to my kids about what they were going through and that it was all related to health and it was the opening wedge our our son Joshua who's a farmer was able then to say I would love to bring you some produce everywhere every week and his fiance was able to say I would love to help you do some cooking so now they've taken food prepared food to that neighbor we took that neighbor Christmas dinner I'm thinking what are the chances that they're going to enjoy this vegan vegetarian and they best probably words they've never heard but you know when you give it you say Lord somehow. Make it pleasing to their taste buds and he does as he does what an opportunity. To get into people's homes and to minister gardening. Excess in your garden can be such. A tool for medical missionary work. Where it is possible the boys and girls should have a piece of land where they can raise something for market and thus earn means that they can devote to missionary purposes what a great idea so I read that quote and I had the idea well we have really we really wanted to take a missionary trip with the family to do some mission work and. We I mean we didn't have money hardly to live how are we going to have money to go for a mission trip and so we decided that the kids were going to this year they were going to each have one full row of strawberries which was. I don't know like eight hundred plants a lot of plants. And they were going to tend it and whatever we earned that year they were going to use for a mission trip while I want to tell you that the starboard crop did not do well that year and there was really not anything much earned I guess maybe we earned. I take that we did our own a little bit OK so then they they earned a little bit and. Anyway that's another story I don't have time to tell you. But they bought a dog and that we were going to use that dog to multiply the mission money that they had used in gardening because we were going to breed her. Well that's a sad story and I'll not I'll not make everyone weep with me over that story you can you can read it in our book and we've been private very sad situation. And but but did you hear the message this morning. Do we believe. Do we believe that even when things don't go well. That God is at the helm of our ship if we're asking him to be there. So we believe no matter whether things look successful or not we believe. All right so the next the third stage is the young gardener stage so first you involve them then you give them more responsibility and then you give them the privilege of. Doing their own thing. So have your own plot let them have their own plot let them be responsible for the cost of seeding and soil preparation. Make them fully responsible for every part of the process. And then. Let them earn the full income for their hard work. Now I say. We try this. I mean it's really almost comical I when I think back it's like Lord why why we had been through a lot of trials ourselves in trying to earn an income. And at one point our boys. Decided that they wanted to grow a crop of sweet corn and we said Hey that sounds like a great idea and they bought the seed they planted half an acre. Not a huge amount but they were only twelve and fourteen this is our older sugar was Jonathan and Joshua. So they planted it. They weeded it corn is labor intensive. And that's why we didn't grow it because it's not a huge you don't get a huge return from it it's a heavy feeder It takes a lot of soil implements I mean soil amending and so anyway the boys did all the work and I mean we were so proud of them I mean haven't you been there as parents you see your kids doing what's right and they're they're working hard and you can just imagine all this is going to be so good this was actually. I don't know if it was before or after the strawberry thing actually. But it was around that was probably around similar time I just know they were twelve and fourteen and. And they worked really really hard Well when the corn started to ripen. Excitement grows right you can just see it oh wow the ears were setting and the tassels and you just know it's going to be good and we also knew that. Raccoons really like. Corn. So now I'm very member that that somehow this story is much more related with the dogs we have a lot of stories and so sometimes they get intertwined in my mind so we didn't have any dogs at that point but. Someone had asked us to dog sit for like six or eight months so we had these two dogs. And they were lazy old dogs. But I didn't know that I just thought they were nice dogs and they hung around and the kids really enjoyed them and it was all great. So when it got the to the point that the corn was getting close to being right the boys had the idea that well we better protect our corn. And how are you going to protect it well you're going to have to be out there so they had this brilliant idea that they would sleep in the corn patch with the dogs and they would bring the dogs down there so the dogs would keep the critters away. I mean that sounds like a good plan doesn't it I mean what dog wouldn't be happy to stay up all night keeping the records out of your corner. Well I mean we didn't. It was a it was so the first night the boys fell asleep and the dogs fell asleep and they all ended up sleeping together in the back of the truck I believe. Well that's no good but hey you know so the next night they're going to do better and they decided they would get up on watches and so you know they set their alarm Xin you know they they had it all figured out as boys are good at and. I think they probably did a watch or two but then they they were like the ten for chance let's leave and they slept and their record. Came in and made off with their crop not all of it. But most of it and by the second and the third night there was not much of anything there was nothing marketable. It broke my heart it broke my heart I thought Lord I've been there myself it's bad enough to be there yourself but then when you watch your kids go through it's like. Why why would you like that happen to them you know I believe that trials come to children to make them strong and whether it makes them stronger or whether it weakens their faith. Depends on you. I'm just going to say it just how it is parents if your children's faith is weak it's your fault for not holding up the standard high I mean I could have ruined my kids' faith over and over again if I had allowed them to know the hard things but when we told them the hard. Things we told them from the perspective that God has something he wants to teach us from this so let me back up and say that might have been a little hard when I say if your children's faith is being ruined I'm not talking about adult children I'm not talking about children who are at the age where they can make their own choice I'm talking about young children how we handle our trials and how we help them to handle their trials will be a big determining factor as to how. How they will see God and how their faith will grow Can somebody help me what time am I supposed to end. Eleven forty five OK we're Goodman All right so it was a fairly devastating lesson to be learned and it was out of that we decided we're going to get these ferocious dogs that would attend our crops and they really have done quite a remarkable job. At least one of them that we have. Because we have a big problem with armadillos we have a huge problem with armadillos and our dogs will take them down by the dozens in the spring and they don't just take them down they actually do the nice thing of burying them. The only problem is sometimes they bury them where you wish they wouldn't like right in your bed you just see this big mound they bury everything one morning my husband went to uncover the the covers in the greenhouse in one of our group houses it was in the cooler time of year and here he sees these two legs of a chicken and they had buried one of our chickens alive. Crazy Dogs All right so those are the three and the three stages you want to get them involved at the. Earliest age possible as soon as they're big enough to do anything you want to give them responsibilities. And then you want to give them privilege. So here's here's my final tips on motivation because I can promise you that I've. We've had many a struggle with our five children in the garden trying to motivate to labor. Especially when they were younger once they turn the corner and they see the joy in work and I promise you that it does come. It's totally different but. Make it fun and I'll share with you some of the ways that we made it fun and I'm going to share with you one Oh I feel I almost wanted to take it out of mine because of the previous one you know we can see something better all the time so we do not believe in competitive sports we really you know our kids will play a few games or whatever but we have very much steered clear from competition but we use competition in the garden to create an element of fun now maybe it wasn't the best element of fun and maybe we could think of it a little better we could think a little better way but it went something like this. I'm going to beat you to the end of this room. I bet I bet I will be there before and they would be like you and he like working so fast but we always worked as a team because the one who got to the end of the row fast then is obligated to help those who were slower so it wasn't just your off the hook but it's you know one thing about gardening whether you're a home gardener or a market gardener speed is important and you need to instill in your children how to work fast and diligent and so some for. Yes you know for me I just use myself as the marker. Catch Me If You Can and they would do their level best and. They were very pleased they all outpace me for sure now but for them it was like they had reached a certain standard when they could pick the first pail of blueberries instead of me you know so I would say that it has been an element of fun and it's never been an element of what competition usually produces in you if I had seen any negative repercussions from it I wouldn't have continued it but. Just making work fun. Telling stories we told stories our daughter and again I can't say that all her stories were truthful they might have been she would might have been creating stories as she would go but for the most part they were truthful stories they were fun stories she would love to tell the boys stories she would always remember this was definitely Kiersten I can tell you about temperaments and personalities and some children are so bent towards. Storytelling and those kinds of things and others can't be bothered they just want to get their work done. Playing games I'll tell you a few games that we played in the last minute we played a game called Hank pink Have you ever heard of it. This is a great educational game so I'm thinking of. And you do think pink or I think the pinky or a hint could be pinky or a I don't know what it goes beyond that but it has to do with syllables so you think of two words that rhyme so I'm thinking of a Hank pink and. It's. A feline so feline goes with the first word. And the second word which would have to be a rhyming word with whatever I'm thinking of for feline feline. Toboggan. So then you start guessing OK what few I'm toboggan what could that be so that they might say well what could the feline be this is a hint remember it's one syllable cat OK correct. Toboggan Can anybody think of any way. Say it again a toboggan is a sled that was kind of a tricky one for children can you think of theirs so I'm going to give you one and I want the children to answer this because I'm going to give you something that toboggan isn't a word that the children would think of. I think here I can think myself I'm terrible at this game I'll just be the first to say that I am the worst in my family. Well let me just say this I to bargain isn't just something you write on it's also something that you wear. It's something that you wear on your on your head. Can you say it loud hat cat hat that was a really simple one OK so we've played that now our kids very much enjoy it some of them more than others like Care Some are all this she is much more into words so then you can do a hinky pinky and it can be a two syllable word for the two syllable word that rhymes but can you imagine that you could use this in teaching English you're teaching what you're teaching rhyming words then you can teach about Hama phones you can do opposites. Synonyms and Antonyms you can you can just create it and it's fun it can be fun another one this was an original dice in your game it's it's kind of silly when I think about it but my kids enjoyed it so they would think of someone they know so like we've been it at this conference and they might think of someone that they met at the conference that everyone else might have met at the conference and they would say I'm thinking of someone. Who lives in Michigan so then they'd be thinking of all the people that they met at the conference who lived in Michigan it's like twenty questions and then you think of a person so then it was really fun they'd always be trying to think of the most remote people that our family knows which we know a lot of people but some know of the more remote corners than others and so just silly ways and little ways that we could keep them going and we also in our family have the if you can't work and talk then you can't talk. If you can't work and move then you have to you know if you can't keep progressing then we can't play the game kind of thing so the last one. Just a little. Languages so I thought this was original with us again I thought my husband had come up with this language AG Eiji before every vowel sort of like our American picked Latin so he taught the kids this what I coined as the AG language and I'm telling you if you heard our children talk it you would think they were speaking a different language because when they were young they could rattle it off it's not like Pig Latin that we speak that is so similar that they could rattle off in people like what language is that. But it's actually US trail Ewen Pig Latin because my mother in law who is John's mom is from Australia and she knew it long before my kids knew it so far just different things that you can do to keep the momentum going. Another thing and I wish we had done this more but I want to encourage you to do it more task oriented not time oriented jobs that teaches children hey when I'm done with this job I'm free you know that's motivation they can really move fast when they know that they can have some free time at the end of that course the job has to be done right it's not like you can just do it as fast as you want and be done. One more quote teach the children that because of God's great love their natures may be changed and brought into harmony with his teach them that he would have their lives beautiful with the graces of the flowers teach them as they gather the sweet blossoms that he who made the flowers is more beautiful than day thus the tendrils of their hearts will be in twined about him remember that picture of the carrot. There it is the tendrils of the. Her heart would be and twined about him and don't be discouraged if you don't see that at a young age it takes maturity it's a slow process just because you raise him in the garden doesn't mean you're going to raise spiritual giants at the age of five or six or ten or twelve it takes time for those tendrils of love to just keep going deeper and deeper into their hearts OK We have just a few minutes for questions. Oh when they got to the end of a row well usually that was a now you're free to you know go play in the creek or ride your by or you can see Caleb he is still I mean his unicycle goes with him and him everywhere I'm sure some of you have seen him here with it. So usually that's where I was saying a tasked at task goal instead of a time driven goal you know it's easier to say get to the end and then we will all go and do something fun. So. So the question is how do you get them to be not distracted basically that's what I hear you saying you know Mrs White has a wonderful quote in in. Oh is that it's Christ object lessons the chapter on talents the talent of time and she specifically says and there sat a time to accomplish a task you know it takes a long time to teach a child to focus but if you set a time and say when you have you know and set it small. To their age focus on this for this amount of time and then I'm going to give you this amount of time to do whatever you want you can be as distracted and people watching as you want. So I use the timer a lot. Another question. OK managing the schedule in our family I would say that our family has run on a loose schedule. That schedule means that we eat breakfast and lunch at the same time every day we have worship in the morning and worship in the evening especially when the kids were were small at the same time. Now that they're older it's it's definitely the evening worship has gotten a little bit more off schedule if you want to say. But. I found for me with my life and I just want to say when you you have to look at your own life and decide what schedule works for you I found in my life when I said OK from nine thirty to ten I'm doing English from ten to this I'm doing this from this to this I'm doing that inevitably I was my day would be derailed and this because of my temperament I would become very frustrated when I couldn't accomplish my schedule and so what I've just learned to do is to kneel down and say Lord These are my plans for today. May they be executed or given up as your providence deems best that straight from the Spirit of Prophecy I can't tell exactly where that quote is but. That is it's such an encouragement we can be so driven by our schedule that we're not driven by the Lord and when when you have a child that needs correcting How do you put a time on that you can't quick it's time for me to do this now you've got to give that your full attention at the expense of doing dishes or whatever so when art. Family worked in the garden OK well I always had these ideas that in the morning we would do school and in the afternoon every time I committed myself to a school schedule. My husband would say I've got to have you and if you are you see her yes. We were going to do school today and get out of that mode I wished I could have been out of that mode the garden is school the garden is school your children should be inside at a desk with books as little as possible appropriate to their age so I think it's important and it's good if you can have a set time to work in your garden every day that works for me now but when my kids were little honestly the farm was fairly all consuming and we worked in the garden every day and sometimes it was in the morning because that's when he needed us or sometimes it was in the afternoon or sometimes it was all day so I know how helpful that is but OK one more question and then we'll stop if there is one more question otherwise we'll stop now. You'd like to keep her. Happy to share it with you. She just asked if she could have my Power Point. So. Any other question. If not let's close with a word of prayer. Father in heaven I thank you so much for the gift of the garden Lord I ask you to forgive me for the times when it wasn't the blessing that should have been in my heart but Lord I just think you that you're so patient and you just continued to show me over and over when my kids were little that is a great blessing it's not a burden it's a blessing it can be overwhelming we can feel like we're depriving them of things that might be better but Lord. May we trust you may we truly believe that the garden is something bad in Jesus name I pray in. This media was brought to you by audio verse a website dedicated to spreading God's word through free sermon audio and much more if you would like to know more about audio verse if you would like to listen to more sermons lead to visit W W W audio verse or.

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