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Sodom and Sexuality: God Created Sex!

Anil Kanda

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Tackle the big ideas of God, sex, relationships, the gospel and how to do life well! Grasp inspirational and relevant lessons from the incredible story of Abraham. These practical presentations will combine the most up-to-date Biblical and apologetic research o many hot topics in the world and church today.

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Anil Kanda

Pastor in the Central California Conference

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  • January 2, 2020
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This message was presented at the g.i.c. by many for thank you in Louisville Kentucky for other resources like this it is online if you want to see Web dot org. Good morning again if the warning time. Feels like morning time for the afternoon time money is an Ok and I'm excited about presenting these messages if you want to say that none of these messages by the way are meant to be fully lost if I like doing seminars in which that sort of provokes new thinking and opens up a sort of a greater light on the situation sending but. You've got a 1000000 questions after each one the some are good I feel like I succeeded I want you to think through things and I want you to feel like and I know what I believe in I can see the big picture of God in regards to this Amen Amen Amen let's that's our head forward for then we'll jump into the message right away. Father in heaven we just thank you so much again for. Grace and Mercy thank you for the forgiveness of our sins thank you for the love that draws us to you we pray and ask that you would bless us with wisdom and understanding and God as we grapple with this issue we pray that your word would speak Father in heaven we want to tread upon this crown with humility and just see understanding God that your ways are always greater than our ways thank you again frame prayer in Jesus name Amen. Nima sermons called Solomon sexuality God created sex what it had all right. Today we're going to be talking about. Wow that sounds competent right there right. But it's sort of indicative and that was actually a test is sort of indicative of our inability to want to actually express maybe a desire to learn about this subject or to understand more so whenever I say we're going to be talking about. This you seem to be apprehensive here. Hopefully by the hand of this that when I say God we're going to be talking about. Sorry that's a little too much on some part. Anyways but. We're going to be talking about the beautiful biblical picture of sex can you see a man to that man a man all right let's get started with if it's really amazing. I actually I have a different degrees one of the degrees I have actually is a political science degree so when I was passing I'm doing some campus ministry at a nearby college and university and I realized that I had to take a class actually you the to do a public campus minutes feats so I had to clap and then I realized I wasn't too far away from from an a.a. already had a bachelor's but I thought hey another 8 am I will work on that and so I finished up inanely which rationality I thought wait a minute why not why stop there you know and so I took another class and transferred to the nearby university and I finished up a political science to greet one of the classes that I had to take with a class on international relations and then forgot one morning I woke up and I'm sitting at the Book of Daniel and I came across something amazing in the spirit of prophecy where only talks about that it's extremely important to study the rise and fall of nations the rise and fall of nations and you can see this bear out in the Book of Daniel and thought wow study up the Rise and Fall of societies and nations is also meant to be a study for eternity as well when we millions of years in the future we will still review some of the lessons and experiences of our world today that very morning when I thought about that when I was excited about that I went to class and there right out of the blue the teacher that very morning and internationally should class that a really interesting there were actually politicians and presidents who will put together committees on the rise and fall of nations. And so I thought about so much and that's really incredible That's actually my point that's embarrassing you know. The Rise and Fall of nations and I'm like whoa so I said I'm making a study of what are the factors that bring about the rise and fall of a nation really interesting I came across a study a book by the book called Sex and culture by Jay z. and when and really interesting he examined data from 86 societies and somebody head is blocking the your head is not giant By the way. This continue with this other man. Ok let's continue I'm going to examine the data from any societies and civilizations to see if there are notes if a relationship between sexual freedom and the flourishing of culture in other words asked sexuality becomes more open and something that has a sort of creative license and agreement patients they found that it affected the rise and fall of nations So what makes the book especially interesting is that we in the West underwent a sexual revolution in the late 1960 s. seventy's and eighty's and now in a position to test the conclusion he arrived at more than years earlier what was that he discovered that with boring monotony the results were this civilizations with more sexual restraint ascended and flourished and rest less restrained civilisations became inner or dead 86 nations were studied in regard to number 2. When the thriving nations of civilizations adopted Luther sexual practices it took about 3 generations 100 years before they became a dead culture meaning no longer flourishing there are 3 the 2 greatest markers of loss of sexual were strange were the abandonment of prenuptial chastity sex before marriage and modified monogamy rampant divorce this is really interesting there is a very strong correlation between sexuality and the Pasir the prosperity of a nation continues in some way the author says this god moral laws are not simply a bunch of arbitrary rules given to restrict mankind's freedom instead they are like operating instructions designed to spare people from suffering while maximizing human flourishing Chadian when also discovered that when a highly developed culture undergoes an increase in sexual freedom notice if a collapse of that culture falls within 3 generations the historical data reveals this pattern with monotonous regularity in other words it happens every single time every single time the pattern is clear it cannot be denied Here's what other commentator said about his book in human records there is no instance of society retaining its energy its vitality its prosperity after a complete new generation has inherited notice of our tradition which does not insist on prenuptial and postnuptial consonants continue if the British anthropologist and when is correct in its assessment decided this is mind blowing right here this present generation the Western world may be the last one in his book Sex and culture professor on when 80 uncivilized culture and it compares was also with 16 civilized cultures extend your last 4000 years he found with thick head with sexual monogamy was practiced the society attained its greatest cultural energies especially get this in the art. Interesting sciences and technology but if people were rebelled against the prohibition placed on them and demanded more sexual opportunities there was a consequent loss of their creative energy which resulted in the decline and eventual discover destruction of the civilization remarkably he did not find any exception to this trend in fact we're going to get a good look at once a side that that actually verified his results take your Bible Let's go to the Book of Genesis we're going to be looking at Sodom. Because Genesis. Genesis Chapter 19 into Chapter 19 and I want you to identify for me when I hone in on a few different passages in the chapter The common denominator that exists and you're going to see sort of the the fruit thing that exists in in Sodom and Gomorrah the Bible calls an example of everlasting destruction in the book of Jews and notes about this right here starting with Genesis Chapter 19 verse one now the 2 angels came to Saddam where. And Lot was sitting where. In the game of thought of when you actually read a few chapters before when Lost separates me from me if you want to step out of my great and savage place near Saddam but when you read this chapter where is the found. In Saddam you go near Saudi eventual end up in Saddam let's continue with this when lots all them heroes to meet them he bowed himself with this face towards the ground and he said Here now my lords we turn into your servant house and spend the night watch your feet that you may rise early and go your way and they said no but we will spend the night in the open square but he insisted strongly so they turned into mentor to see how you made a feast unleavened bread and they now want you to pay attention to our 1st experience in Sodom and Gomorra earth for now when they laid down the men of the city the men saw them both old and young all the people from every quarter surrounded the house and they call to law and said to him Where are the men who came to you tonight bring them out to us that we may know them Carnally it's very interesting I want you to pay attention to this 1st experience you see a lot because of his hospitality of what you had learned under a pram brings these 2 guest in under an ounce am unaware to him that these were actually angels and as he brought them and also a cat crowd began to gather outside of young and old men and as they came closer to the door as seems to be part of the sort of pattern of night life in saw them they demanded that these 2 visitors be brought out they wanted to take them by force now I want you to pay attention to what the Bible says Next notice lots response verse 6 and you can start seeing the common denominator here so a lot went to them through the doorway shut the door behind him and said please my brother do not do so we can see now I have 2 daughters who have not known a man please let me bring them out to you and you may do to them as you wish only do nothing to these men only ask your question when Lott said that you think his 2 dogs were up in the back relies on father that's a great idea. It was not a good idea well how do you know this because when you actually read the book of Hebrews the Scriptures do not commend law for it hospitality commands a parampara hospitality Number 2 the other example that you have of something similar happening in the on the time the song is actually found in the book of Judges where the Levites priest actually does the Levi actually does something similar with the woman he's the rolls around and the men have her and this is there is something very important for us to understand here something is happening in the culture of Sodom and you know the rest of the story what takes place next the angels interest the blind the men they begin to take everyone out of the town Lot's wife looks back she turns into a pillar some pillar of salt they get to a cave and notice what the Bible says happens in the cave or 30 and you can point to me what is that common denominator right now or 30 then Lot went up out of door and dwelt in the mountains and his 2 daughters were with him for he was afraid to dwell in Thor and he and his 2 daughters was in a cave now the firstborn said to the younger Our father is old and there is no man on earth to come into us as is the custom of all the earth they thought this was a veritable flood situation where the destruction of the world took place and they were the only people left on earth they thought wait a minute it be a good idea for us to procreate with our father son notice the steam that they have to procreate with their father their 3rd you come let's make our father drink. Drink wine and we will live with him that we may preserve the lineage of our father now I want you to notice what is the common denominator happens here you know the common denominator with the the 1st instance you have the menace autumn wanting to take the the 2 angels right and then you learn about Lot willing to say Wait one just send out my 2 daughters and then he knows his daughter for liking we need to procreate with our father let's get him drunk What is the common denominator and seems to be the spirit of Sodom. In every one of those circumstances they were willing to go by a late the freedom of another person to satisfy the sort of cravings of another individual or entity in every one of them why do you know this because the men of Saddam wanted to take those 2 visitors by force law wasn't like hey I'm going to ask my 2 daughters if they think this was a great idea he was willing to send his 2 daughters out and then you know what his 2 daughters did they were like wait a minute we know our father is not going to do with this by his own choice he's not to be Ok with this let's put him let's let's lift him a roofie Let's get him drunk and he gets knocked out and you know what they do they see put them into pagan nations come out of that and what you find in Sodom you find people who are willing to violate the choice of another individual to satisfy something in regards to sexuality this is the spirit of song and it's not different from some of the spirit that exists in today's world. So I don't follow them with the palm of a selfish pursue a pleasure rather than participating in Selfless community which includes a mutuality within biblical sexuality the inhabitants of Sodom corrupted sexuality made it selfish violent and what's the next word destructive and so it's very important for us to understand in our world today how do we navigate when you have so many voices saying this about sex this thing about this about sex this about sex and this about sex it could be peep from all the way from you know people who are supposed to be very religious and spiritual to individuals who are just out in the world we are finding out thank you very much just so many voices and perspective about sexuality all you have to do is watch television for about 24 hours and you will realize everything across the spectrum in regards to sexuality there is an education that is being brought upon this very world but that's why we need to go straight to the Word of God Can you say amen to that we need to understand what are the principles the biblical principles of sexuality here's something that's super important for us to understand and that is this when troops in Scripture are not appreciated and they're not celebrated and they're not talked about it creates a void which then becomes a space for aberration for counterfeits and every other heresies and would be very frank with you on this for a very long time our church has really not grappled with the subject of sex we have dealt with it purely from a doctrinal standpoint of making sure that marriage is between one man and one woman but we really never really talk and appreciate if people call sexuality a man to be letter in hands in that. God wants us to celebrate biblical sexuality and this is very important I mean I grew up in a culture of Indian culture where you just don't talk about even in today's Bollywood movies they generally you will not see a man and woman kiss the 1st time and I hope my mom never ever listens to the sermon. I remember that my friends told me he said you know your mom and your dad are still and I was like what you mean by that and he's like you know they're still and I could not understand like literally my mind was not capable of like I like even my existence I did not know how it came about I was just like I just know we're here. And my mom my dad love each other and the young man when he was just trying to express to me hey your mom and dad obviously still have a physical relationship when he finally just said I was like I cannot believe this. But I never call my mom and dad kids Ok to have my dad passed away but I never saw my mom and dad kiss once Ok and this was just something like I was just so when they told me I was like this cannot be true. It cannot be true and my friend says we will how do you guys come about and I was like I don't know we just we're here. And this exists in many different forms that exist within Adventism and exist outside of Adventism to exist definitely in the Catholic Church exists outside the Catholic Church exist in the world in different religions and different cultural groups have sort of their version of educating people about sexuality but if there's ever a time we need to understand biblical sexuality it is now can you say amen to that all right so let's take a look at this number one God created what. Sexuality think about let's go to the Book of Genesis chapter 2 Genesis chapter one by the way is sort of God's creation story Genesis chapter 2 is God's favorite part of creation story which is the creation of mankind and his bride. In Genesis chapter 2 something amazing takes place Genesis chapter 2 I want you to see how the story of perfection in Genesis chapter 2 and let's go to verse 21 through their same men all right and the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall into Adam very good and he was. He took one of his ribs closed up the flesh in its place in the rib which the Lord God had taken from man he made into a was a woman and he brought her to the man right and notices Adam says this now if there are margins that exists in your bible that when Adam says next you get the that margin then your bible is listening now for you know if there's a margin with Adam song that he sings next right the reason why you see margins there is something because in Hebrew it's called Paradise Medicare lism it means Hebrew poetry in other words what comes out of Adam's Now sex is poor to clean which poetry is what 40 men saw with men for poetry raise your hand and he told courageous men here what is poetry. Yes Finally a victim is our friend good the best. Yeah so in other words like poetry is a form of communication that expresses more of the motion and lend of the heart than ordinary narrative language could ever do right and that's exactly what I was getting from you so here's the thing and if you really were you were saying it you were saying it. Yes and that's as you said some good work right there and some point for some time because when Adam sees Eve what comes out of his mouth is poetic language but I want to see what happens next not what the Bible says Therefore before a man shall leave his father mother and be what joined to his wife and they shall become one love. One Flesh emotionally physically spiritually right socially they became one flesh and notice what the Bible says and they were both was naked and the man is white and we're not ashamed how tennis is chapter 2 and how perfection ends is with just a beautiful sexual picture of Adam we sure are talking about there there there right just this also before cop it is it's you who's being the context of men and woman and their their their sexual connection together friends I want you to stand there Stone says any other way God is the one who created that can you say men to that we need to be excited and proud about that God created sexist thing didn't come from the devil it wasn't some kind of necessary evil God himself was the 1st one responsible for this experience of sex Now here's what's so amazing friends when you study out the song The Solomon you know when I was going to college and I was reading the song Solomon I just become 70 am in tears and I wondered to myself What is this book doing in the Bible. In fact when we read the lunch sometimes I'll be reading it I never got this one instant I becoming it's going cross your segments and I came to the Song of Solomon and I was reading it and I went into the lunch area and as I was we knew somebody came and sat down me and you know why did I close my Bible. I did not want them knowing I read this book right. And I'm going to 1st time I read it I thought to myself What is this doing here like I don't understand it but it is beautiful picture of a man and woman who fall in love now here's the thing I want to ask you the raise your hand what word does not appear in the song stoning raise your hand. Ok. Raise your hand. This is. What war does not appear in the song so miss is beautiful picture of a man and woman and a woman who is just a few you adore this man and they drink of the fountain of love you know what does not appear there in the Song of Solomon the word children. In other words the purpose of sexuality is more than reproduction in a man's. Sexuality was meant to be this beautiful thing and let me just add one more thing to this really powerful the reason why you find so many guardian references in the song and song is because it is meant to point you back to the Garden of Eden as if man and woman just come together this beautiful expression of biblical sexuality all the garden references are pointing you back to the Garden of Eden and what it was like in the Garden of Eden between Adam and Eve It's such a beautiful thing when you're setting out to it again and those things turn out you know me right now let's continue with this. Song so men right there know so the Bible says over and over again right there it says I charge your daughter to choose on by the because there are also other dozer the field do not store up nor we can love until it pleases I tried your Daughters of Jerusalem but it is those photos of the field do not stir up love and tell it over or through up nor awaken love until it pleases I charge or dollars or to some other cause else about a dose of the field do not stir up nor awaken love and tell it pieces what you find when you're reading a song a song even though there is this beautiful expression of love and the serendipity of romance that exists in the tension of the motion you will still find that they are boundaries. Boundaries that exists within the Song of Solomon boundaries that are there women don't don't don't go food to forehead yet just just wait till the right. Time anything and that wait till the right time to do within the context of what marriage sexuality fits highest what purpose not me a fortune anybody here enjoys fireplaces I love fireplaces and even here especially on a cold rainy day maybe it's snowing right when I get too much snow in California but imagine just like you have the fireplace or furnace right the fire crackling crackling right and you're there and it's like a hot dog they're going brings you maybe just some role model whatever. And you're just like oh this is great you have your bible there and it's a beautiful thing fires are in a fireplace on a cold day is a beautiful thing a man fire right here is not a good thing. In other words fire out of it's context can become dangerous are you listening to me fire out of its context can become a dangerous thing or it can become a life giving thing within its context and that's important for us to understand when it comes to understand something about marriage anybody hear of a dog. Ok to be here have a German Shepherd bless the Lord I have a German Shepherd to them his hero hero hero is a good dog and there's something I just can't hear is a great dog and bomb of Craigslist 200 bucks from some Indian guy a good deal. On this information but I have this dog and every time I travel I come home anew with this dog does he come crying to me and he comes up jumping and sort of push me and he's gone big He's a full grown 4 year old dog now and we can push me to push him back into Will running off happy I'm home when they did this to me came pushed me up pushed him off good boy he only goes running off and goes into the living also here. And I walk into the living room and this is all you know what he's doing. He's chasing himself in a circle and he's chasing his tail. And when he got his t. i Phone when he got his heels he bit into his tail. You know why he also. Because he thought he was chasing a someone when in reality he was chasing a something and when you chase a something around that someone you're going to be hurt in the end. Sex is not to be something complete just. Go over there. Sex is not meant to be just a thing it's meant to be part of a beautiful picture of love in marriage within the context of marriage can you say amen to that and that's what we need to understand right then you know what this is right there was a chemical formula based around if you know what this is raise your hand I can't I don't I can't hear you you can't raise your hand. What is wrong anybody else. Yes I'm about. Oxytocin you're right and we know what's on your mind brother. Oxytocin right that's how you knew the answer right that was on your mind anyway this is the chemical formula for oxytocin do you know what a nickname is for that chemical since Yeah you might have heard this before right is it considered sort of the the love juice right it's something your body excretes But it's it's very interesting to understand the dynamics in which this this is secreted in the body. This actually is secreted especially during times of affection between a man and woman it appears it's most released in the body after sex it's also for women released during a time of nurturing her or her newborn baby for men it's primarily relief during sex. What is interesting about this is that this chemical actually creates a greater bond between 2 people there was a study that was done where they took it was in Finland they actually took a a group of males big males and they just healthy they brought them in and what they did is they had this interview or this the and what her job was to do was to you interview them and they had no idea what was going to happen they took some of the men passed them and they had a nasal form of artificial oxytocin the spit in the nose and what they found out was this and these males by the way on Wall relationships the 2nd with the interviewers and the ones that did not have the nasal spray sprayed into them they noticed that they began to flirt with this the doctor but they noticed that the ones that were given the dosage they kept the distance that this is very clear that the oxytocin was actually also preserving a monogamous relationship they had with somebody else. Very interesting to get a result suggests that we're oxytocin release is stimulated during a monogamous relationship it additionally promotes its maintenance by making mental voice signaling romantic interest to other women through close approach behavior during social encounters in this we also are told that may help to promote fidelity among within monogamous human relationships but here's the bad news when a man and woman have sex before marriage oxytocin becomes released they become bonded together then they eventually decide maybe we should probably get married my child together and you know what they realize a year or 2 down years or 2 years down the road I married the wrong person what do you mean it just felt this incredible one was because we had sex with each other. You see what I'm talking about so it's very important to understand that this you know these some of these things that God designed into the sort of biological elements that they themselves have a place in time and environment for them to be released which contributes overall to the relationship and its stability but you don't want that released prior to the time a marriage you want to release after marriage then you say I'm into that all right let's continue with this number 3 Sex is a journey not just a destination right sex they want to hurt and that guy is attorney. The 3rd 7 I'm able to look a certain sex is a journey not just a destination you know it's amazing there's this interesting story member named Daniel keyboard do and mangy Saxby So what happened is these 2 pioneers got married and they decided to invite James White to officiate in the wedding and it took place at this amazing the state they get there they do a wedding when they were done with the wedding the state owner sales teams and went hey once you can see a night in one of the rooms it's totally free a sauna so they do in the mill Nael might have to go the rescue and restaurant for locating the actual need to go out into the lobby to find the restroom she gets up she goes into the lobby and you know what she found she found a new keyboard deal on the couch in the lobby and he stood up again walking around his palms were sweaty and he was very very nervous about this person and this is in the middle of the night he didn't know what to do. You want to well my system is very interesting there's this when I went up there to recharge he saw a very nervous young man pacing back and forth in front of a closed bedroom door she suspected a problem. He said to the young bridegroom as a bride they were quoted her husband's recital of the incident Daniel. Inside that room is a frightened young woman in bed petrified with fear now you go into her right now and you love her and you come for her and Daniel you treat her gently and you treat her tenderly and you treat her lovingly it will do you good Amen but notice then she added Daniel it will do you good too. I can imagine say with a bit of a smile will do you good to. Get hot in here I want to write the point I'm trying to bring out of this is that I don't want even understood look a the thing about sex it's going to be a journey which 2 people are growing and it's not going to be this like and let me just be very frank with to be frank with you your 1st night is goring to be swapping in Misfits it's not going to look like old because there's millions of roses on the bed. It's candles to take a picture like any input on Instagram you know wake up that morning going to be like. You're going to feel awkward and they're going to feel awkward but that's Ok And you are going to happen in time you 2 are going to grow you 2 are going to come together you 2 are going to work together and you 2 are going to experience more and more the beauty of a physical relationship with in the context of marriage where the Bible says in the marriage bed there is no difference Amen and that's what's so beautiful about this is she encouraging this. Yeah let's continue with this. Our sexuality is deeply connected to our spirituality we mean by that you know it's really interesting the study of the story of Sodom and Gomorrah we know a lot about the fruit sins that were existing within Sodom and Gomorra this disregard for another person's life sort of the forcing of one's will and all the other things that came with it but it's interesting in the Book of these details we oftentimes quote this as the root sin and the bible points that out not what this is equal 16 verse 49 look this was the iniquity of your sister Sodom she and her daughter had pridefulness the bread and abundance of idleness and neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy this is very important God is not just simply pointing out sincere he is pointing out sort of the the environment that created Sodom and Gomorrah but what does that look at most of these key elements a pride before Mr Bread Sea Island this indeed refuse to serve those who are less fortunate but also within God pointing this out you find also got giving good things to people to understand especially to those that might have had a past or feel like they're trapped in some kind of sexual addiction or whatever God is actually also pointing out areas of your life that if you change these areas of life will help you to combat some of the addiction specifically in regards to pornography that exists well what are the number one having a humble spirit depending upon Christ Amen never to use fullness of bread is that talking that is talking about the power of appetite. Were adamant he fell Jesus picked up the ground he picked up the the contact and he defeated in on the avenue of appetite there's nothing more than affect our natures then the foods that we eat the way we live our lifestyles and different things and as a problem one of the things that we do is we tend to eat so much and what happens is as we sold much food goes into the stomach and blood begins to leave other parts of your brain and soon you begin to end up sort of in this buzz it's really interesting because the power of appetite is soul strong you want to how powerful the appetite is try fasting. Yeah you were fast I had one friend by the way you call me up and he said an illness ask you to feel depressed the fast feeling Oh praise the lord man as I am. His brother called me at 10 am and I sailed in the family. And I was like Brokaw only been 2 hours I know I decided getting a headache I felt dizzy and I just just it's Ok Lord knows your heart right now we know what it's like when we fasten Time magazine in 10 being read but when you fast you recognize men my appetite is so strong I did this 10 days fast one time where I did 3 days of juicing then 7 days of rock I would literally wake up craving like veggie burgers and my wife is on the tongue right now like to come out one day with this big case your mother why am I thinking about this stuff right now and I'll be talking to somebody and I just in my mind I'm like food food. And I realize now the power of appetite is so strong Jesus fasted on our behalf. To give us victory he reached a state in his humanity where he could identify with the weakest of individuals and he overcame through the power of His Word and His victory becomes our victory Amen so if you want to have victory in this area perhaps you may be someone struck with a sexual addiction of some 40 start with the area of a humility be learn to control your appetite make adjustments where you need to make judgments by the way I study this book my I'm working on a master's in public health this emphasis in nutrition we. Study at the history of food and very interesting during the time of Rome's glory you know what they would do they would actually see caged animals they would probably cage animals to the cage animal was buried just upset and just angry and ferocious and then they would flee the caged animal and eat the animal because they believe the state the animal which the animal dies with then be transported to the soldiers and into some degree they are right. It's really interesting even some people call b.b.c.. You know Kobe beef is yes it's really expensive beef you know it's expensive because they actually massage the animal before killing it. To place him in a state of rest because if he's agitated there are a whole morning chemicals that are released that actually change the texture of meat so Kobe beef is really expensive because it maintains their. Normal texture of meat in those animals it's really interesting to see what what changes when we adjust our diets and we'll get into more in that some of the time Number 3 I don't miss idleness and there's never a time that the devil can create opportunities it's during a time of idleness time to feel like we have nothing to do than to feel bored times are just like I don't know what I'm going to do right now I'm going to turn on the t.v. and you're like wait a minute I like kind of watching the station or how about that movie and film or watching things you probably shouldn't be watching Idol this creates this platform for us to get trapped in these kinds of things so if we want to overcome one of the things is to start making sure that we take care of our time and you think I meant to that last thing is a refusal to serve they refused to say were those who were less fortunate and because they failed to do the work of God they took on the spirit of the oppressor it's amazing when you study out that story in John chapter 4 about a woman who had a sexual problem here's a woman at the well she met at Jacob's well and Jesus begins to talk to this woman and when this woman is ready for the water of life Jesus says hey wait a minute your cup is already full with something else that you had 6 husbands. And the one you're with United be married to this woman didn't get married over and over again simply because she just wanted to get married in love the ceremony she had some kind of addiction we don't know all that the degree to which the diction was but she felt that she could find this need in one person to another person to another person to another person to the point where she may decide a lot from not bother Marilyn I'm going to sleep with him and she was and you know what Jesus does doesn't leave her side doesn't run away. He doesn't stop and say well I'm done with you you know what he does fix it out with this woman and he says I'm the water of life I'm the one you've been looking for and this woman as she's realizing she leaves the water park and she heads to the town she becomes evangelists and here's the thing I want you to send do you think before she became a banjo if she stopped at that 7th person's house and said hey we need to break up you know in other words she became an evangelist not before not after she was delivered but while she was being delivered Can you say amen to that this woman begin to realize something about this their Savior and that is at the very moment that she realized she was fully known fully loved a beautiful change begin to take place in her heart she realized that God understood all the filth in her life he understood all the junk that was there the things that people knew about him the things that people didn't know about and there's nothing more that causes shame in our lives in sexual sin. But Jesus did not abandon this woman during her time of brokenness he stood by her side even though he was able to open up her history and show her look I know all the things about your life. And I'm not telling anybody. I'm here because I love you and I want to save you and this woman begin to understand something as women begin to just grab something about the savior of love that his friend. Sinners Can you think he meant to that Jesus is a friend of sinners all of it oh might this right here heart that have been the battleground of the conflict of say and they have been rescued by the power of love notice if are more precious to the Redeemer than those who have never fallen. God looked upon humanity not a vile and worthless he looked upon in Christ Saul as it might be through or deeming love can you say amen to that you know when Jesus is your savior not just get a new future you get a new path a man because you get his history and Jesus stand as your intercessor to the times that you are struggling broken and weaker than you've ever been weaker before week before and times that you feel like you're getting great b.c. Jesus walks with you to the place of victory and overcoming can you say amen to that and in regards to sexuality the 1st thing you need to understand number one God loves you Haman God loves you not before you came after you change God loves you is all I'd say is as you are and you may come to him as you are sinful helpless and needy but isn't just leave you there he not only cleanses he begins to purify you see the key to finding victory in this area it's not just about thing no to thin it's about yielding the will to God and saying yes to got over and over again yes to God yes to God yes to God Lord I'm surrendering right now how I feel I'm saying yes to you I'm not strong enough to say no to sin and I'm saying yes to you but as you say you have continually over and over to God and then you begin to make those adjustments where you need to make those adjustments you will find victory and wonder if you will prepare the way for other victories a man. Him God is good and he cares about you he cares about me we have nothing to be ashamed of we have nothing to be ashamed of in the righteousness of Christ disappointed biblical sexuality is something we can talk about it's something that we can appreciate it's something we can celebrate it's something that we can be joyful and look forward to you amen. That's perhaps what a person will do some questions Father in heaven we just thank you so much again for this time even though we didn't scratch the surface we pray that and I'm just impressed with this verse right now that you can. Restore the years of the Locust have been and got Thank you for your grace and mercy that covers in cleanses us and still grants us the special blessings and opportunities Thank you Lord you desire still to give your best to us in Jesus' name amen. All right with you some questions questions we are about 6 minutes questions we can question loud and clear no preamble let's just get right to it yes question. Sure sure I think of you know the one thing I'm thinking of right off the back right now is you know the 1st full day that I mean spent with each other with the Sabbath. And I think through the Sabbath it was not just meant to be a place of vertical relationships but horizontal relationships and I think the Sabbath is actually is a part of God's plan as well that allows us to interact with people and connect with people we're not just stifle with the rest of the world I would say the Sabbath is very important number 2 if you are in time of intense study I just that there may be a time for you just say you know what I have to focus thank you for those that are in med school dollar crazy that's the classes anyways let me just start on that I have friends or I'm at school and and movies drink on this many of them end up getting relationships and breaking up really quickly and the reason why is because they're vying for attention so if you weren't in time of intense study it might be best to just sort of put the brakes on it now let's this intense study is going to last for like 8 years 9 years. In medical school Ok gotcha. I would say take advantage of experience like this at the conference use the Sabbath to connect and by the way this is really important to seize I think it seems the last meeting. You may feel like I'm not in any could certain circles I can't find any lines elephants or bears or fish around me my church I'm the only young adult you may feel like that even thought like that for Ok To be honest people here Ok. I would say this and I think this is really important since we don't live in a grant aside if you have good friends who care about you and friends you can trust Don't be afraid to actually tell and say Here I care about you and I know you care about me if you know somebody you think would be good for me don't look out for me and. You know me by the way when you talk to me look at Genesis Chapter 24 The servant is also one of the main actors 1st you talk to a friend that he talks to God and he talks to Rebecca then he talks you back to family then he talks to Isaac. He is somebody that is playing the role of not just someone who's you know in the relationship but someone who's involved in actually helping out and like look you know he's like I got up I care about my servants might my master's son and I'm going to look out for him and we have good friends that you just like their godly friends and they know your case you know I mean they're not going to find that to be from the you know what I mean like it's like you just kind of like you just kind of like man they know my Like They Don't you know generally it may not be exactly the person I want but generally they care for me in trust them with that and you may have to have a conversation with them and it may seem kind of weird but here's the thing you want to feel weird about it we're not living in a society again where your parents may do this work for you and you want them to be involved but many times you may not have a godly family who can do that for you so good friends care about you know God and pray and have a question yes. He says it's a Buddhist subject or taboo subject. Ok. Sure. Very interesting question I would say this that. And I think there's a few things we can kind of will take in this sort of angle that this and stuff. Generally people who masturbate are thinking about somebody else you know like that's on their mind they're lusting after somebody else they're not like oh there's a wall there. They're lusting after somebody else so in that their last thing there is of a violation of the conscience south and number 2 I would say this regard to what scientists think your. What's being released from your body is the nutrition cocktail. And this nutrition cocktail is being released and what's happening is when this when this is released from the body there are hormones that are released there's sensations that are released even within the mind and there has been there has been studies I've looked at that are counter to some of these studies Oh it's probably healthy it's holy like Ok it's much months where they've actually seen a decrease in overtime of the libido of men who continually masturbate so effects them on different levels the 3rd thing I would say is this for those that you masturbate when you look at the studies of how they interact now with their spouses it's very diminished from what it could have been because they had this habit so I think science is very limited at least current research is very limited on their perspective they're not looking at a holistic picture of if and I think that's what's beautiful the speed of prophecy in the Bible that we're seeing a holistic effect happening here that does affect bath and reverts back to changes in the body and in the mind in social behaviors as well as a result I think it's undeniable but very very good question yes do you best. Ok. Sure. Here I think a that's a good question so what you have societies that in which birth robot earth will did not exist it was like we're getting married the idea is for problem to have kids really soon this this now is available to us it would be wrong for us to bring a bunch of children when we don't have any kind of finances to be able to take care of children like that it would be wrong on us we're being wrong stewards there and I think of birth control you know within the marriage I mean I don't see anything particularly wrong with it I don't think it's it's a violation of the conscience I think it's it's carefulness it's proper planning is it's not a violation of life itself abortion simply a different issue here but we're just talking about contraceptives here yeah so I think of I would probably advise the whole idea of pulling out I think that can have an effect upon the relationship in some way even in industry and in ways that can always be discerned I would say probably a better use of the contraceptives but I don't think there's been in those things as you're trying to be careful about yeah yeah sure one of the sons of Juda actually did that he pulled out but when you study the context is that he was trying to stop an air being born this is very important specially in the Jewish culture when they knew that the Messiah was coming down the lineage he was married she was wanting a wife there seems to be dynamics that were indicating that he was violating God's will at this moment you know the dynamics of it and you know this because she ends up being in the heritage of the Messiah which is which is really remarkable you know and so yet it's not like oh yeah you pulled out that's a sin of itself I think the context reveals what was going on there and where God was like Hey that's enough yes question. So. Like the. First. Sure sure sure it's I don't think in any way it's meant to be an example I think what you're looking at is a situation where Joseph was very apprehensive now understanding the Messiah was part of this he was like you know I want to be very careful there you know what I mean the the promise hope for thousands of years now in this well I'm just I'm going to love her give her all the emotional support you know and I you know I can just imagine going to sleep with probably very awkward but as soon as it was done you felt like Ok the 1st piece of mission complete I think my you know I can take care of my wife now in that area but I don't believe in any way that's meant to be you know when you study out like you know as far as like even the biology of a woman who's pregnant there's a period of time you know where it's it's it's totally fine and healthy woman was pregnant you know so any of the questions Ok to feel more yes. It's. Sure I would say this that you can have differences that exist I think part of the whole dating last thing to fight courtship but if you call it is going to be for the very proper time of you to understand each other's differences to to a certain degree there's going to be a limit in which you can understand eventually you have to step out into the marriage thing if that direction you feel good about but. Just to you you can't know all there is on a person before you date them and it's how you guys work together and resolve some of those issues in conflict you know it's not as categories as we think it is oh yeah you know I know everything about them I know about their likes or dislikes you know this is the things that sometimes idealism teach us every single thing about the moment about the waking moment the moment you go to sleep you know when what they're doing no one's looking around I mean you can't figure that stuff out you know if you know what that person is and there's going to be some things in mirrors you're going to discover that you could not discover any other way that was impossible for you discover but that is what marriage is supposed to be a sin unfolding of a relationship but it's how you learn to work and if these things are strong deal breakers I think those are things that you can kind of flush out and work through in the relationship early relationships on the finances or question anybody else yes yes. Sure I think. Your your priority is 1st what God wants in the 2nd priority is for this cause the man child the even the father mother and cleave to his wife and the words there is a unit that exists that meant to be separate from all other groups all of the relationships and that takes a priority. Even regardless of how strong the the collective body may be. You have to work within the dynamics like if you go to the Indian culture for example arranged marriages are traditional Indian cultures arranged marriage is a big thing and you're going to marry not just to a person but to a family and there's expectations that are there but I think where there's freedom and understanding and communication I think it's important that you share what needs to be said and be careful of being pushed into a decision that you may regret later on. No one should pressure you into marriage with somebody you no matter how strong the other influences are you have to feel like me and this is a collective good thing I feel like I'm really interested in love this person so I'm pretty sure to your question but anyways few more questions and we're done yes with the glasses in the back. Oh. Sexuality meters high for 1st within the context of marriage and your question yeah yeah. Yeah. Sure I think a certain sense is going to be different I think generally it's important to recognize that someone who has a past history of sleeping with people multiple people multiple partners inevitably it's going to come into a present relationship that's. The no question about that but I think if you feel like man this is a person God has brought there someone who's grown and converted you may have to carry a cross in that area if that's something you feel like I'm willing to do you know. But I think in regards to looking at somebody and just initially I think it's important to weigh out these things like what what has been their history is it something that's just recent Well they just stop sleeping around with somebody last year or 5 months ago they just got that ties this lifetime need to know that things marinate a little bit to find out Ok How has a person been since suffering a certain behavior that was not healthy time in the question yes. I. Could see could you reach iterate that a little bit. You said a sexual. Ok like in other words they're not really interested in sex Ok. With your question. I would say this that. You know like that example what you saw with own why didn't that person those people freaked out and there were some reasons behind why they were freaked out I think someone who experiences like hey I love this person to want to get married but I don't really have this like interest in like I think it's important to get some counseling here and the reason why is because there may be things underneath the surface that need to be sort of taken out examine you know what I mean because like I was saying sexual very much connected to our spirituality and I think in some areas that were free to me open up a change in people there are people who have apprehension to all forms of sex like they're just like I don't want to do with this. But there something that's brought about that idea there's something that the mentality you know. I think it's important to examine that be a counselor of like you know a psychiatrist and when you do and you feel like Ok we're making progress and seeing things you can proceed I want to get married and just all hopefully things will work out you know everything we're going autopilot you know I think you need deal with some of these things prior to marriage. This message was recorded and did you want to see conference by many or very few in Louisville Kentucky do you I see a supporting Ministry of the 7th Day Adventist Church seeks to challenge and inspire young people to take a sacrificial initiative for Christ to download other resources like this visit us online at u.s.c. Web dot org.

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