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Inverse, 3rd Quarter 2021: Sexuality

Justin Kim

Israel Ramos

Jonathan Walter

Callie Williams

01 Counter-Cultural

Sebastien Braxton

Sikhu Daco

02 Naked

03 One of Two Gifts

04 Incredible Sex

05 Marital Sexuality: Oneness

06 Marital Sexuality: Twoness

07 Marital Sexuality: Sameness of Nature

08 Marital Sexuality: Difference

09 Interconnectedness

10 Pre-Marital Sexuality

11 When Things Go Wrong

12 Beyond Sexuality

13 Purity

Problem with superglue is if you play with it and you rip it apart you get in trouble.

Coming to you from Silver Spring, Maryland, welcome to Inverse, a Bible-based conversation on life principles, contemporary issues, and thought-provoking perspectives.

Now here's your host, Justin Kim, with Inverse.

Hi everyone, my name is Justin and you're on Inverse and in the studio with me is Sebastian, Callie, and Siku.

And we've been talking about the topic of biblical sexuality, biblical sexuality.

And we want to just give you a heads up that we are talking about a sensitive matter.

And if you have minors in the area, you want to be mindful that this is what we're going to talk about.

But we have covered a lot of things here, and I have been very blessed by our conversations.

This is a very, as I said, it's a weird topic.

But the more that we talk about it, I'm realizing this is a very important, central topic, especially for our generation.

And we need more conversation about it with some rules.

And those rules being, hey, this is a sacred topic.

I want to thank each 1 of you for participating in a wonderful conversation.

And we're going to talk about something that's maybe not so nice.

The Episode is called When Things Go Wrong.

And we've been talking about this high, nice ideals and we throw the ball higher and it's getting higher and higher and higher.

But sometimes and often we live in a society where things do go wrong, especially when it comes to sexuality.

So let's go to Matthew chapter 19, Matthew chapter 19, verse 3 through 11.

But before we do, Callie, if you can ask for the Holy Spirit to bless her today.

Father in heaven, we thank you for this opportunity to study your word together, and we thank you for guiding us thus far in this topic.

And as we talk about when things go wrong, I pray that we wouldn't be speaking from our own wisdom, but we'd be speaking from the wisdom that comes from above, that is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, and without partialty, without hypocrisy.

That is the kind of wisdom we would like to embody right now and so I just pray that you guide us by your Holy Spirit to that end.

Sebastian, Matthew chapter 19, verses 3 to 11, please.

It says, Then the Pharisees also came to him, testing him and saying to him, is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason.

And he answered and said to them, Have you not read that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female?

And said, For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the 2 shall become 1 flesh.

So then they are no longer 2, but 1 flesh.

Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." They said to him, Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?

He said to them, Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning, it was not so.

And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.

And whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.

His disciples said to him, if such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry." Okay, we'll stop there.

We all, I think the 4 of us, have some experience with divorce, maybe not within our own relationships, and the Lord forbid, but within our families and in our context.

And so we just got to make sure that we want to be talking about the Bible, we're going to be talking about what's in the verse, And just stay within the Bible text.

And this is a point of safety, especially when it comes to sexuality.

But divorce is a very common thing, especially for the millennial generation.

I think you mentioned in a previous episode that that is something with our generation.

We are afraid of getting married because we don't want to reproduce mistakes of the previous generation.

And we're finding that the average age to get married is getting older and older and older, cohabitation is rising.

The weird thing is, first sexual encounters is declining, maybe because of the prevalence of pornography on the internet.

So this is just a weird, wonked out generation society that we're in.

When it comes to divorce, Sebastian, share with us more.

What is Jesus getting at in this passage?

Well, I think the first thing that Jesus is getting at is he existed in a time in the nation of Israel's history in which divorce was something that was approached in a flippant manner.

And that's why they came to the question to him was, is it lawful for a man in verse 3 to divorce his wife for just any reason?

So the whole idea was that Moses had given this prohibition in Deuteronomy, saying, this is how it works.

If you want to get divorced, this is what you do.

And they just interpreted that as, well, if I don't want to be with you, I just give you a bill of divorce and then just move on.

And Christ is saying that we need to appeal to the ideal.

The original from the beginning situation, when God created man and woman and Instituted marriage there was no divorce.

It was not so so then they're like well Why did Moses allow us to get divorced then if that wasn't the ideal?

Jesus says it was because of the hardness of your hearts, the unwillingness of the human heart to want to endure the difficulties of faithfulness, to endure the price that it's going to cost to actually have a successful marriage.

Most people are not willing to pay that and endure it and hence Jesus says this is the grounds for divorce.

It's not just for any reason, only for sexual immorality and infidelity.

He says now outside of that, if you marry her who is divorced and it's for different reasons than you yourself are committing adultery.

1 from the side of the ideal and the other side where even in a less than ideal context, there's still a boundary.

You can't just get divorced because you feel like it's not working out or it's just irreconcilable differences.

I know it doesn't feel radical, probably in a Christian context, people believe in the word of God, But I've had many conversations in many locations around the globe where this is a radical concept.

And people will try to reinterpret Jesus's words to fit their own experience.

I mean, I would say that it is a radical concept, regardless of the context, just based on the reaction that the disciples had in verse 10.

Yeah, it seems like they understood something about the gravity of what Jesus was saying.

Because they said, if such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry.

Because there are situations and circumstances which are not flippant, which would lead someone to seek a divorce.

And they're like, if this is the case, like if, you know, it may not be at the point of infidelity, you know, like your spouse slept with somebody else.

It may not be at that point, but there's some serious emotional abuse that's happening, right?

So, I mean, I think for Christians, regardless of, you know, cultural context, I mean, I'm hearing that, and I'm like, if my husband is day in, day out speaking to me in a certain kind of way, am I supposed to just sit there and endure it?

Like, this is, I mean, it is a crazy statement that Jesus is making because there are steps that come before your spouse went and slept outside the house sometimes, you know, slept with somebody else.

So it is a very, very radical statement that Jesus is making.

And I think 1 of the things that it calls for, and here I'll speak to before you're married, it calls for looking at marriage with a certain sobriety and realizing it's not just about, it is about the roses and yes, you do finally get to sleep with that person, you know, and you've waited all your life and held onto your purity and finally you can release, you know, that's kind of as a single person, it's, you know, sometimes it can seem like that, but having like a serious lens of what it takes to have, yeah, to have a marriage that is going to work.

And that if this is the only way that I could maybe even then have an exception, that means that this is a very, very serious commitment.

So before walking into it, before entering into it, like having that lens of this is a very intense, beautiful, but very serious commitment that marriage is.

There were flippant reasons to divorce back in Old Testament.

The Old Testament says if the woman does not please you in any way, like you didn't like the shape of her nose, or like she burns the toast, or she flatulates after lunch, whatever reason you have, you divorce.

And so here Jesus is kind of upping the ante.

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Inverse, 3rd Quarter 2021: Sexuality

11 When Things Go Wrong

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