MTYC 2010: You Are My Witnesses

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Montana Youth Conference

MTYC 2010 Breakout Seminar - Relationship

Justin Howard

I’m Already in a Relationship!

Conformation vs. Transformation

Unequally Yoked Together

Thanks God But I’ll Do It My Way!

Am I His Witness?

Father in heaven, we want to thank you that we can talk more about relationships this morning, and I pray that you would inspire us with your thoughts.

Give us your spirit and help us to understand what your plans are for us.

And Lord, we know that the relationships that we have with other people, especially the opposite sex, are so very important in your eyes.

And we know how devastating they can be if we're not following you.

And so we pray, Lord, that you would help us to see clearly and follow you.

In Amos chapter 3 verse 3, what does the Bible say?

The Bible says, Can 2 walk together except they be agreed?

Can 2 walk together unless they be agreed?

What happens when you just don't get along with someone?

How easy is it for you to spend time together?

It's like, man, I wish they would get out of the room.

How can 2 walk together unless they be agreed?

There is nothing more calculated to lead away and destroy young people as unconsecrated, unholy, uninspired relationships with the opposite sex, okay?

Nothing more calculated to destroy a relationship with God and with each other, especially maybe when we consider even relationships with people from another faith.

There was a young lady that I met in New York, and good young lady, comes from a great Christian home and worked with us in the mission trip.

Last year came this year and what I found out is that she had went to Boston for a while to be a nanny.

And she met that someone at another church.

See she was a Seventh-day Adventist Christian, but she was attending a church there, and at the church there weren't very many young people that she was communicating well with.

And so here she was, she was wanting to develop rapport with people, have relationships with people, and really kind of just establish that friend base while she was there.

She's young, she wanted to go have fun and do things, but she wanted to make sure that these friends were Christians.

Nothing wrong with that, but what happened is she didn't find what she wanted, okay?

What she needed was there, But what she wanted wasn't there.

She wanted a fun, exciting, big group of people who were out having fun all the time.

And so she didn't find it in this little church over here, so she went to another church and she began to find those types of people, but they were living a totally different faith experience than what she was living.

And So while she was there in that group of people she began to meet other young people, she began to meet other young men and as she met these other young men she found 1 that she was attracted to that grabbed her heart.

She got to know him a little bit better and as they got into a relationship things progressed and I don't know to what level but I do know the end result.

The end result was that finally she had to break off the relationship with him and it was very hard because what she thought in her mind is that I can get in a relationship with this guy, he's a Christian, he follows the Bible and because of that things will be okay and I think that probably in the back of her mind she's thinking I can win him to the faith, to our faith, to the Seventh-day Adventist Church And when it came right down to it, that wasn't what he was thinking.

And so the question, how can 2 walk together except to be agreed, was actually being fleshed out in her life.

And she was asking that question to herself, how is this going to be possible?

And praise God she was able to actually think through all this and get out of the relationship before it was too late.

Because you know who knows what can happen if you get into a relationship like that it heads off down the road and you make commitments that you shouldn't be making and you make deals if you will that shouldn't be made you end up married to a person like that you can lose your whole religious experience, your whole Christian experience.

So there is nothing more calculated to lead away or destroy a young person as a consecrated self initiated godless relationship with unbelievers and even though it's a different face.

Now if you think that it's of no consequence to choose a company of unbelievers, I want you to think again.

No they're unequally yoked technically, okay?

They're not happy with each other and I bet anything if that donkey was big enough you take that bull Okay, and that's how it can be sometimes in our relationships And that's how the influence that these relationships Work in our world today, and if you look all the way back in the book of Genesis chapter 6 you'll find that people are actually being unequally yoked together even back then.

Genesis chapter 6 And we're going to begin in verse 2, and then we'll look at verses 4 and 5 also.

It says, And it came to pass, when men began to multiply on the face of the earth, and daughters were born unto them, that the sons of God saw the daughters of men, that they were fair, and they took them wives of all which they chose." Why did these sons of God take these daughters of men as wives?

What really moved them to go and marry them?

I don't think I could have given a better explanation.

Here's a group of women, if you will, who are beautiful, pretty, on the move, and their physical attractions and their worldly appeal began to appeal to the hearts of the sons of God.

And so they said, you know what, they're beautiful, they're fun to be around, they're awesome, I think I want to spend the rest of my life with them.

And they didn't even think to ask God about being in a relationship with them.

Well, and also the Christian girls were probably plain looking, quiet, and they were wanting to settle down with family.

They weren't the type that were exciting and more stuff that was like, wow, she's kind of good looking and stuff like that.

And so there was a difference between them.

And if you're with that type of group, where it's different than the normal group that you're with, it can all of a sudden have an appeal to you, that you didn't think would ever happen.

And I think it was Wes that said that sin is actually fun.

And it does for a moment, but the end result is no fun.

I can tell you from personal experience just seeing people and spending time with them and even being in that type of environment where you have young men who are Christians but they are losing their Christian experience and they see all these good looking girls out in the world who are fun and fast and exciting to be around and they are really catering to their wants and their needs, if you will, but not catering to the whole religious experience and developing true relationships, I've seen them just get sucked in and get completely lost.

And what Satan does is he completes this false environment, this false society, if you will, false community, And He draws people into it saying, hey, it's fun, it's exciting, this is where you need to be.

These people really get you, they understand you, when in reality once you get into it they don't understand you at all.

They're just there because they want something from you.

And if we don't have consecrated hearts it's the same situation, we just want something from that other person and it ends up being a situation where we are unequally yoked together with unbelievers.

And I just want to let you know that you can be unequally yoked together with believers, unbelievers even in the Seventh-day Adventist Church.

So when you are picking and choosing someone you better be careful And like I said in the first seminar, make sure that you understand what God is asking of you, number 1, and how He defines the relationship that you want to be in so that it's a safe environment to enter into.

And I guarantee you, you'll be able to see that wolf in sheep's clothing a mile away once you spend time with Jesus.

It says that the daughters of men were fair and they took them wives of all which they chose, not that God chose.

And then it says in verse 4, there were giants in the earth in those days.

And also after that when the sons of God came in unto the daughters of men, and they bared children unto them, the same became mighty men, which were men of old, men of renown.

And God saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.

So then what was the result of coming into these types of relationships, of being unequally yoked together?

It just didn't stay in this secluded environment or this reclusive environment, this sealed off environment.

What happened is those relationships actually had an impact on the rest of the world around them and you see the whole world just literally falling apart in the context of these sons of God being married to the daughters of men.

So the influence that you have when you're in a relationship with another person can be incredibly powerful, people see it, you are setting a standard if you will as a Christian when you get in a relationship with someone else.

So if you get in a relationship with someone else, if you are unequally yoked together and people see that and they think that is what relationship is all about, you are giving a false impression and a false witness.

And ultimately again it's not just you and that person that could be ending up on the other side of the kingdom if you will, but many people who are looking at your influence could be there also.

Series

MTYC 2010 Breakout Seminar - Relationship

Unequally Yoked Together

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