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Open Door SDA Church

Restoring the Home

Dwayne Lemon

01 The Sealing Work and Its Order

02 First Things First

03 Biblical Principles for Marriage

04 The Power of Forgiveness

05 Biblical Principles of Parenting

Last week we talked about the establishment of the home and how before God brings men and women together in holy matrimony, the first thing God wants to do is make sure that each of those individuals know him personally for themselves.

Now, today we are touching on a very, very solemn subject, biblical principles for marriage.

What was it that God set up for humanity when it came to this wonderful institution called marriage.

There were only 2 holy institutions that were made in the beginning of time before sin, the Sabbath and marriage.

And there are some lessons that God wants us to learn as we study today.

So I've been preparing my heart all week for this, and I'm gonna go ahead and offer a word of prayer at this time, and I'm going to kneel to pray.

And I would like to invite you as much as you are able to to kneel with me.

If you cannot kneel, just bow your head reverently where you are.

But if you can kneel, let's kneel together and let's ask the Lord to prepare our hearts to receive the word at this time.

Our Father in heaven, we are very grateful for you blessing us all to make it safely through another week.

We thank you, Lord, for these opportunities that we can hear heaven speak while we on the earth remain silent before you.

And Lord, we bow at this time recognizing your greatness and We humble ourselves in your sight and I start with myself.

I pray that you will please forgive us of our sins.

And that you will cleanse us from all unrighteousness and that you'll grant us the Holy Spirit who is the only effectual teacher of truth.

Take these words and make it plain to our hearts.

Give to us what we need most at this time and may marriages that are represented in this room and those who are preparing or 1 day hoping to be fitted for marriage, May we all receive heaven's instruction today.

And I pray, Father, that as you bless others, I'm asking in a very special way, please do not pass me by.

I am asking for a special endowment of your spirit, not only to enable me to speak your words, but to receive it in my heart for my home sake.

And I ask all these mercies in Jesus' name.

Now, as we prepare to get into this study, I'm going to ask us to take our Bibles.

And if you want a double blessing, take notes.

Because there's going to be scriptures on the screen, there's going to be things referenced.

And the best way to get the blessing is to take notes, or like we have modern technology, take pictures of the slides.

And this is recorded, and it will be on our channel, our YouTube channel as well if you want to review it, but please make sure that you're taking note.

Now I want us to go to John chapter 3 before we dive into this study because there's some things that God wants us to understand.

We're going to John, we're going to the third chapter, and I want us to see what the Bible says here because I know what could take place in our study today, and by the grace of God I don't want it to take place.

In John 3, I want you to see what the Bible says in verse 19.

In John 3 in verse 19, let's notice what the Bible says, and when you get there, just let me know by saying amen.

All right, in John 3 in verse 19, the Bible says, and this is, I'm reading from the King James.

It says, and this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light because their deeds were evil.

Now, why is it that I'm giving you this verse before we even go into the study?

Because there are things that I'm going to be sharing that Some of it is going to be potentially what we would call strong meat.

It's going to be some things that's going to be maybe a hard saying.

And I want you to understand from the beginning of the message, when God presents his words and sometimes his word, which is a sword, can cut.

It might cut at some area in our own life.

There's sometimes we might discover things about ourselves, because we're gonna talk about husbands and wives today.

And we're gonna talk about it from the word of God.

I'm only 49 years young, but I sit under the ancient of days.

And so what I'm doing is I'm not teaching my 49 years of experience, I'm teaching the experience of the ancient of days of what he put in his word.

And so this is the oldest counsel that can be given on the subject of marriage.

But when speaking on this subject and identifying God's plan of understanding what he intended when he established something called marriage, husbands and wives.

We might find ourselves possibly feeling condemned.

But I want you to remember what we read in John 3.

Condemnation does not come to us just because we've discovered something that we're doing either right or wrong.

The way condemnation comes, according to the verse, is when, even if we're doing the wrong thing but if that light comes to us and we say ah I see the light I never knew this light but by the grace of God I will walk in this light as Christ is in the light If that's our attitude towards what we'll probably call new light, there is no condemnation for you.

So even if we're studying today and we realize, wow, I may have been doing some things wrong.

Maybe there's some areas that I have neglected.

The purpose of the message is not to condemn.

The purpose of the message is to educate.

I believe that God has given me a ministry of education, not a ministry of condemnation.

That's the same ministry he gave to you too.

He did not give us a ministry of condemnation.

So if we discover something through the study that we can honestly say, Wow, when I compare myself to the word of God, I see that I may have been doing something wrong.

The only time condemnation comes is when We clearly see the light, we understand the light, and we say I hate that light, I reject that light, I will not follow that light.

But you're not condemned just because we discovered something.

Now, with this understanding, we're talking about biblical principles of marriage.

When we're talking about biblical principles of marriage, we need to let the Bible speak.

You see, Christians, for Christians, we do nothing more, we do nothing less than follow our pattern man.

Christian by the very definition of the word means follower of Jesus Christ that's what a Christian is now with that we learned something about Jesus Jesus made it very clear in John chapter 5 turn there with me following Christ let us remember what the Bible says in John chapter 5.

In John the fifth chapter we're now looking at the 30th verse and we're just seeking to follow what Jesus says.

Jesus made it very clear in John chapter 5.

Remember, being a Christian is a follower of Christ.

Now in John 5 and verse 30, this was the attitude of Jesus.

So evidently, this should be the attitude of every Christian.

The Bible says in John 5 and verse 30, Jesus said, I can of mine own self do how many things?

And my judgment is just because I seek not mine own will, but the will of the Father which hath sent me.

So Jesus made it very clear, as I walked on this earth and everything that I did, I never did anything just because I wanted to.

So Jesus, watch this, lived by every word that came from his father's mouth.

That's why we should not wonder when Jesus says, man, talking about Christians, followers of him, he says, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God.

So when we look at marriage, what we're not going to do is take mother and father, uncle and aunt, grandmother and grandfather's concepts, and let that shape how we understand marriage.

What we're going to do is we're going to let the word of God shape how we should understand marriage.

Now, there are many of you who are single, but I can almost guarantee you, Probably 99% of the single people in this room hope to 1 day be married.

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Restoring the Home

03 Biblical Principles for Marriage

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Parent Series

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Recorded

Set Your House In Order

1h 50m

OYC 2012 Plenary Sessions

Parables in Marriage: Wedding Pictures

32m

God’s Love Letters

1h 6m

Why Jesus Can’t be Your Boyfriend

59m

Three Essentials for a Strong Marriage

1h 2m

Seminars

Family in End-Time Perspective

51m

Dane Griffin: SWYC 2005 Practical Christianity Seminar

Practical Christianity Seminar, Part 1

51m

Women A High Calling

The Glory of Man

52m

Biblical Relationships (Afternoon meetings)

Overcoming the Myths of Marriage

32m

Relationship Revival

2. Loving Out Loud

1h 11m

The Sacred Circle

The Sacred Circle: Godly Love in the Home

51m

Sound Doctrine