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Loma Linda University Student Association

Relationships Week 2006

Don Mackintosh

God? Why?

Parents? How?

Peers? Who?

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Phil Mills

God’s Purpose in Marriage

God’s Ideal in Courtship

The Essentials of Happiness

Key Questions Before Marriage

Courtship Question and Answer Session

Yesterday I tried to show you a picture, and it was too dark.

I live with 3 women, my wife and 2 daughters.

Strabu is now in the second round of hair.

Her first round of hair fell out, and she had a rapid developing alopecia that was reversed by a microsurgery on the table, some felt and a glue gun, and 3 burned fingers later.

She came back to life, only to be lost at the park for 3 weeks, but she's back with us.

Her name is really Catherine Caroline, but I call her Schmiki.

Man, I tell you what, if she was here today, you would just fall in love with her.

She would come up and hug you and kiss you even if she never met you before.

If you're looking for a relationship she would have a relationship with you.

She is just a really relating type person.

They're always trying to get her to sit with them at church and other wherever.

We knew he was going to be Harry from this picture.

Now this is just a few minutes after he was born and he was already just kind of looking around.

And he's just a great guy and I can't think of having a life without these people.

I'm glad to not see you guys anymore and go back to see them again.

And we talked about the fact that God wants to, He knows about us, he cares about us, he loves us.

Even if we're despicable, like Sam, we talked about.

Look, if you didn't get to come yesterday, I think you might enjoy the tape.

This is kind of part of my personal testimony.

And today I want to share a little bit more testimony with you as we talk about our second subject today which is parents how now how many of you this is any question have parents most of you do some of you may if I ask another question how many of you live with both biological parents?

That would be a little harder for some of you to answer.

How many of you get along well with your parents?

Might be a little harder for some of you.

How many of you have great parents, have never had any problem with your parents at all?

You've just raised them correctly and they're doing everything right.

Some people just have a real good experience with their parents.

I did not have a great experience with my parents at the beginning.

I want to talk about the importance of that today.

Do you have a positive relationship with your father?

Last days, it says that there'll be problems with parents.

People will be disobedient to their parents, will be ungrateful, they'll consider nothing sacred, the Bible says.

And researchers have shown that this is very important.

The Harvard Masters of Stress Study says 82% of participants who had low warmth and closeness with their fathers, had diagnosed diseases in midlife compared with only 50% of those who had a high warmth and closeness with their fathers.

There's a physical problem, or physical problems that develop when we don't get along with our dad.

John Hopkins University looked at cancer and said the best predictor who would get cancer decades later was the closeness of the father-son relationship early in life.

You have a positive relationship with your mother?

Again, Harvard study, 91% of participants who did not perceive themselves to have had a warm relationship with their mothers had serious diagnosed diseases in midlife, including coronary artery disease, high blood pressure, duodenal ulcers and alcoholism compared to only 45% of those who perceive themselves have a positive relationship.

Is it important to have good relationships?

100% of participants, all of them who rated both their mothers and fathers low in warmth and closeness 35 years earlier, had diseases diagnosed in midlife.

If you didn't get along with both your parents, You are on a trip, a train wreck ride to heart disease, to cancer, to diabetes.

Could it be that the problem is not so much what we eat, although it can be, but our relationships that are related to health?

This lady and her husband go to my church, great people, this was a great mom and dad figure and they were so loving and kind that they had, you know, at their home 20, 30, 40 people just kids that were starving for love.

There are some people that are just parental in all the right senses.

I think in the Bible the wonderful theme that sometimes is skewed because of our misrelationships or our distorted relationships, our diseased relationships with our fathers and mothers.

Still, nonetheless, the biggest theme in the Bible is the paternal love of God.

God was always talking about the Father and how He loves us.

Perception of love itself may turn out to be a core vital psychosocial spiritual buffer reducing the negative impact of stressors and pathogens and promoting immune function and healing.

What about a study looking at college-age students, the same group, 95% of subjects who used few positive words and rated their parents low and parental caring had diseases diagnosed in midlife, just the way they talked about their parents.

Only 29% of subjects who used many positive words and rated their parents high and parental caring had diseases diagnosed in midlife.

Do you say positive things about your parents or negative?

The relationship of these descriptions of parental love and caring to future health was independent of a family history of illness, of smoking, of emotional stress, of death and divorce of parents, and of marital history.

He was a teamster, big thing, and he was just known for his anger and his hostility and getting things done.

I wanted to say to you today that while I seem pretty happy, there was a time in my life I was just very bitter, very angry.

And there's really, now that I think about it, not too many reasons to have been bitter at my father.

My dad got hit by a train when he was 7 years old.

That doesn't do too much for your physical body or the way you relate to people.

Maybe you've been around someone that's had a head injury and they have a hard time concentrating and all those different things.

And I didn't really know that, but growing up my father and I became estranged.

I have 3 daughters, I mean 2 daughters and 1 son now, and I want to be close to them all the way through.

I know I'm going to probably screw something up.

But I want to be close to them because I know what can happen when bitterness comes in and it's not dealt with.

I can remember of 16 years old finally coming to the conclusion that my dad and I were just not going to be getting along and I can remember telling him 1 day in the car, dad I can see that you're not happy about life.

You're just a miserable angry person and you happen to be a minister too and that must just be terrible.

Dad looked at me and he just dismissed it.

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Series

Relationships Week 2006

Parents? How?

Transcript

Parent Series

Sponsor

Recorded

Mind Cure- Part 1

1h 12m

Norman McNulty Weekend

Justification By Faith For Our Time

50m

Crisis At the Close: Gethsemane

52m

Mastering my Emotions with God's Tools

Mastering My Emotions with God’s Tools - Part 2: In Control

1h 1m

Testimony of Christian Berdahl

2h

Skeletons in the Closet

53m

Learning from MRSA

47m

Plenary

From the Ground Up

1h

A Crisis of Belief

40m

Gerard Damsteegt: Sanctuary Series

Sanctuary, Part 2

46m

Knees, Keys, and Please!

2. Encountering God

1h 5m

Plenary

The One Thing Jesus Can’t Give You

55m

Sound Doctrine