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I'm Cameron to major and I'm Mark Howard and this is talking points 4th quarter of the year 2020 the topic for this quarter study is education and we are a lesson to the family yes and there's a lot to say about this I want to remind people before we dive into the study that we have our study notes available on the Web site here at the bottom of the screen and you can go to our resources page of Michigan s s p m o r g and pick up those as a study guide for yourself you're free to make copies of them distribute if you'd like or you can use use a template if you want to make make your own talking points that's fine but we encourage everyone to not just review the lesson and follow rote day by day by day yes but to draw out some of those important points that can be regardless how long of a time frame you have to get that main point across in the status quo and one of the things that we have done is we have started posting them as a 2 side up front and back so that you can print them off and if you have a 2 sided printer you print them and just when you print them you want to choose that it would flip on the long edge so then you have 2 sides and you cut it down the middle and makes for great and there is no way to do the hand if you want to use it for that purpose again you're free to use them how you want to absolute They're available All right well we have a great study today about the family and of course when we talk about education in the 7th Day Adventists context we start always in the home right and so that's where this lesson begins rightfully so but before we get that study we need to start this with a word of prayers Let's bury it Heavenly Father thank you for again the opportunity to be students of your word and be learners at the feet of Jesus now Lord open your book to us by the power of your Holy Spirit reveal to us troops that we. May already know but in a better deeper way or May new truth is that we need to have in our recognition and understanding so be our teacher today for we prayed in Jesus' name amen and then Ok let's talk about just right off the bat our 3 talking points so we can like fill them out as we go on what are the main extractions from this well lesson prior to the 3 talking points it's important understand that the lesson is called the family but is really talking about the home school and even when I say that home school is a turn maybe that's why they put the family here that is low it was never things and so one thing that we need to make clear in the lesson I think makes clear is home school does not mean school at home I'm guessing it can't mean school at home but when we often talk about homeschoolers I'm with the very 1st school children have and that doesn't consist of you know some people who are supposed to homeschool because I want to set them down to 3 years old with a book a notebook and they're going to write up and that's not a good deal or kind of strike and so the lesson is trying to highlight this the family as a as a school the home as a school and I say that because then we go into our key points key point number one is example is the 1st class in the home school. You have before any math or science or anything of that example is the 1st class and why and I will explain what we mean by that Ok now this is going to sound confusing until we get through it but it's the 2nd point key point is communication communication is education is communication. At the Department of Redundancy Department and. There's a reason that I worded it that Ok and we'll highlight it when we get to Ok but we're talking about communication the importance of communication in the process of education and then the final key point is repetition deepens impression and there's a there's a there's a good education includes. A lot of repetition and it's a biblical principle we're going to look at as well Ok so we have our overview that they were not just talking about an instruction like a school planted inside the house but we're talking about the home itself as a classroom and all the lessons that come out of that so let's dive into number one then example is the 1st class what do we mean by that well we in our introduction we I want to share the statement found in desire of ages on Saturday afternoons lesson Ok go ahead it says From the earliest times the faithful in Israel had given much care to the education of the youth the Lord had directed that even from babyhood children should be taught of his goodness and his greatness especially as revealed in his law and shown in the history of Israel song and prayer and lessons from the scriptures were to be adapted to the opening mind fathers and mothers were to instruct their children that the law of God is an expression of his character and that as they received the principles of the law into the heart the image of God was traced on mind and soul much of the teaching was oral but the use also learned to read the writings in the parchment rolls of the Old Testament Scriptures were open to their study so you have from babyhood this this teaching that takes place and as we're going to find in the last and much of that started all of it started in all that way when even though it is think of Bible classes like well you can't really start Bible class you can read the Bible but there's things like well and eventually you got to reading the Bible that's right it started with all those principles being in call created and discussed before even reading was a thing that's right and inculcated through 1st and foremost example Ok example is the 1st class because you know what you're going to teach a a tolerably going to teach an infant that doesn't know how to read you're teaching from the beginning from babyhood and you're teaching by example now highlighting quarter I mean start the quarterly Sundays lesson paragraph 5. Christian education is a commitment to educating families and members in doctrine worship instruction fellowship evangelism and service Home is where you minister to family members about the love and promise of God It is where Jesus is introduced to children as their Lord and Savior and friend and where the Bible is upheld as the Word of God family is where you model what a healthy relationship with our Heavenly Father looks like that's a lot of yes that's a lot to expect from a family right but it's long before school it's a home it is a lot to expect but then it's not I mean that that what is a family if not that what is a parent a Christian parent if they're not in cocaine in Christian principles to their children and they do that whether they plan to or not height as the whole you know the whole idea of example is and as I've put in the lesson here again Home school is not 1st and foremost a curriculum or a study of books you're teaching your children by the way they watch you engage with one another the way they watch you interact with God. It's interesting that the lesson you know I've drawn this from Sunday is lesson and then Monday's lesson you know Monday talks about the childhood of Jesus and then right off at the vet it says it wasn't called the childhood of Jesus you know because it was very little you know about the child of Yeah yeah and then there is their credit there are 6 scripture section actually talks about. Joseph and Mary Ok and their characters and you know what the some of the characteristics that that led to you know their faithfulness in their spirituality and it's fascinating when you think about it and you were commenting on this that most of us can't pick our parent you know I've heard someone recently was discussing this with me the idea that you know nobody can choose where you're born or what your parents are you just end up where you are except for God That's right he chose the parents for Jesus right and let me hit the pause button for you complete that put yourself in that mindset if you could choose your parents and your where you were going to grow up in your home situation what would you choose right and much of the criteria we would have them are like this would be essential Jesus did not choose That's right In fact he. Was collecting his 1st disciples right one of them said Could anything good come out of Nazareth it was it was how can possibly the good but God chose that his son would be as we've already heard Nazareth it's a good thing not as the worse but it demonstrates the power because Mr y. talks about this I have quotes all the time ahead right here but she repeatedly goes back to the idea that the surroundings of Jesus were not just this pristine Eden except for him though he had temptations all around and difficult circumstances to face but his home life prepared him for that in dealing with those temptations that he developed a character that was centered on the work that was done in the home that in later life was it was a foundation for him because even though he was in a bad community he lived in this very nice house and they were up on a hill far away from the everybody is use of poverty it had a mixed home life and I mean with all kinds of issues but still Mary and Joseph did their job as the Lord instructed them to do and raised not just a child but v. child of promise right it's incredible in this speaks to the power of example I put the note here in. Arnaud's Joseph and Mary were not chosen because of their wealth or their education or their position that's right you can't say always because the only thing they're chosen for as we see in scripture is their characters and the God the Father knew their characters would help to provide the example mercy then that would be telling a pause on the life of Jesus. Yet that's. I'm sure we'll get into this later of it the I'm reminded of we're both thinking like how much to say looking at the clock yet just there's a lot we can get into it because the Bible doesn't say specifically much but there are there are strong hints in Scripture you know for instance I think that when Jesus began his ministry he comes back to Nazareth you can find this in believe Luke Chapter 4 where he goes to Nazareth in a says and well you can see it in scripture. To refer snatchers not just as his hometown to where he was as well but where he had been brought up that he had endured in upbringing and then immediately says and as his custom was he went in as how do you get that custom of going to the synagogue on the Sabbath day and standing up to read well it's because he had been brought up in an influence that demonstrated an model that kind of fidelity to God and His Church and you know these things were not accidents that Jesus just like. You know came out with good character and really knew scripture well and was committed to the church No that was built into him by his upbringing in the home yeah I would most likely bring this up in the class I didn't have an outline just you know trying to keep insisting that but there's a fascinating statement on Monday afternoon about how Jesus learned from his mother the words he spoke to Israel I think he is the depth of it just blows your boy you know it does so you have him you have him learning and growing but you have and so there's obviously precept from the mother but there's also the example of the parents yes and there's a statement that comes to my mind makes where she says that one and she didn't just talk about parenting but the principles there that 1. 1 it one example of what happens with many precepts right now you can teach a lot of things but an example says so much she hasn't done so little and so. This would be a. This would speak very. Solidly for lack of a better expression to us as parents as to what kind of example we're providing in the home before any kind of conventional teaching ever begins well Wednesday is less and kind of Dutch it dives a little bit deeper into not just the Emily in generic term specifically the role of father and mother and paragraph one there of Lindsey's lessons as parents have an awesome is Bill responsibility the father is the head of the family in the family is the nursery of the church school and society if the father is weak irresponsible and competent in the family church school and society will suffer the consequences father should seek to demonstrate to the fruit of the spirit love joy peace longsuffering gentleness goodness faith meekness and temperance. And then it talks about mothers to have perhaps the most important role and we get into this a little bit and maybe should just continue reading about mothers to have perhaps the most important role in all societies they have great influence in shaping the characters of their children in establishing the mood and temperament of the home father should do all they can to work with the mothers in the education of their children the idea being that fathers and mothers have this equal responsibility with differentiated roles that's right and that's one thing that I do and you know the lesson brings up if he says 5 in 1st Corinthians 11 We're talking with the head father being the head of the home and this is just so contentious anymore people you know the people immediately within the church want to jump on this as an inequality issue like oh what you're saying the fathers the head while you're saying that men and women are equal to it and it makes me think of when I do premarital counseling every young couple want to get married I use a program that. There's a questionnaire that the couple fills out and one of those pieces of questionnaire is on roles and responsibilities in the home like when you get married who's going to do what and I've got this sheet and there are 3 columns one says the husband was. Why when one says both and it's got stuff like washing the dishes vacuuming the carpet you know taking care of the kids were essential you know who's going to do which one and in the instructions now the couple supposed to fill them out independently but you know so don't confer you put in your eye do you think it's helping them come together you know on where their thinking is prior to marriage but they may have all know this is too many both civil be suspect in any married person those who are we're both going to we're going to both of you know we're going to get we're going to both that it just doesn't happen that way it isn't practical happen partially because of skill sets and you know I'll be honest with you there are some women I've known women who you know that guy doesn't fix the stuff around the house the woman does stuff like but the point is because of aptitude maybe learned that growing up but everybody has different aptitudes and different roles in roles or not any quality thing right so well even in the fall of the beginning of the Garden of Eden the respect of before their children the mix just the husband wife relation was helpmeet right that they were supposed to complimentary parenting right the holistic picture and in the home that seems to only make sense when perhaps the father has the more structural authority role but of mother has the broader influence role and they're both are essential to the upbringing of Christian children that's right and their roles as you said compliment one another. I think it's interesting that the father is the that again the head of the household he's the one that and some people have all the head I think it's this is a steamed position but sometimes we forget that with authority comes responsibility and it wasn't even God went to after the 1st after the fall of man evade the fruit 1st but who's got go to Adam and he says what's happened yes he had to bear the responsibility as the priest of the household at the same time it doesn't lessen that doesn't say oh he must have been more important Any Oh I have some fantastic statements and I've included a couple here they're not. In the lesson that I conclude in the handout because they're just to me they're so powerful 1st one is from having us home page 240 says next to God the mother's power for good is the strongest known on earth the father's the mother you can understand the father provides a certain level in most cases in the home of structure and has typically been the breadwinner in of course things have changed to some degree and but I'm going to tell you that I don't care what society says no father will ever replace a mother it's true you didn't there's something you can I don't understand what it's like to have somebody come from me yes you know for to birth a child and there's a bond there alway says in other places as well that the mother the strongest bond of love on this earth outside of the love of God is love a mother for a child well even in this statement next to God the mother's power for good well yes was right there how much power for good does God have yes he is on a mission right and the next thing next to that is the mother's power for good so there's an influence wielded in the in the in that relation that is unique and irreplaceable Why don't you read an excerpt from fundamentals of N.G.O.s powerful though the results of her work are not apparent angels of God are watching the careworn mother noting the burden she carries from day to day her name name never appear on the records of history or receive the honor and applause of the world as May that of the husband and father but it is immortalized in the Book of God and let's pause there and let you know this was written at a time and we still have the case even if a mother is a career woman there are many women who to take a period of time off to raise their kids and then what are you doing as a round of laundry and changing dirty diapers and this and that and it feels that in the husband comes home and he's got this new thing in the world a great brought home that he's got this new deal that he closed out this week in the works given him a bonus and all this and he's got all these rewards that tell him he's appreciated where their mother often times he just got the kids are but I love is like we just have the book of God's record in heaven that's huge right she is doing what she can. And her position in God's sight is more exalted than that of the king upon his throne for she is dealing with character more exhausting than that of a king upon his throne Yes it is and again she's dealing with character she's fashioning minds and you must talk about the physical birthing process and then then she molds That's right the mothers of the present day are making the society of the future how important their children be so brought up that they shall be able to resist temptation they will meet on every side in later life exclamation point that's right and I have to make this point that because I've encountered and I know you have as a pastor I've encountered with my own wife when my wife decided she wanted to stop working and raise her children I've encountered a lot of young ladies who've had other women say oh wait you're stayed home mom like you're some lesser thing they got to go out and get a career like I have and there there are women who I believe in ately I believe God puts this in want to train up their children to be greater than the king on the throne and our society pressures them to feel like that's not as somehow as the male heart as going out and being the head of an advertising firm right and it's just it's is the devil I believe is the devil's way of tearing down our society and helping mothers and others to devalue one of the most incredible important and powerful roles in this earth Yes And so again we're not highlighting fathers over mothers are mothers of the pie loving mom let me go but on Fridays paragraph 2 the statements brought out from the book education the work of cooperation should begin with the Father and Mother themselves in the home life in the training of their children they have a joint responsibility as should be their constant endeavor to act together so again this is not saying the imbalance thing but bringing into harmony those very institutions the Lord has established for the building of his kingdom now we spend a lot of time on that but all that is dealing with example it's all the power of example and it is the 1st teacher in the 1st class in so we're going to take me to. Well of mom and dad you know so we got to pick it up a little bit here. Well you laid the trap here tiling this next one communication is edge well is communication that's because the lesson on Tuesday talks about communication it says in the very 1st sentence in a very real sense education at any level is communication. So I flip that to say and communication is education other words when a child when the children are younger every bit of communication that takes place around them is teaching them so communication is education and education is communication you have this. Point a lesson the lesson goes on to make the point also that education is communication and communication is the basis for relationships and then they talked about the importance of teachers building a good relationship with the student and so it is with the parents but all of that is founded on effective communication is the key is effective commuter train churches I'm not going to go rails here too much but about they need to Ms White talk about every church should be a training school right s. and I used to think that's a powerful statements like friends we need to start training in churches and then I realize that every church is already training people whether they're unintentional in love you're training them by the influence by the example by in the home training of children will happen automatically but and something is being communicated but we need to be aware of that and choose to effectively communicate to guide that pretty Right right and the read section on Tuesday gets into that I wrestled with this for a while because it says read the following text what can we learn from them about how to build strong family relationships or any kind of relationships I was reading that I'm thinking they don't really speak to relationships and then it dawned on me they all are actually speaking to communication which the lesson just made the point isn't to let building block for relationship good relationships come from so really I retitled it. The question What can we learn from these texts about good communication skills right and brings up things about don't be angry don't fret speak what is acceptable have meaningful conversations and and sharpen want another with those conversations speak the truth in love so a lot of it is speaking about speaking no evil not Cohen we communication but the conduit of communication that's right at the character of it and you know you bring up this point that. Obviously you want to say good things what you say is important but equally important and often times more effective is how you say it right that the how is is really critical and communication not just the content right and I put a little some point that emoji isn't the best thing that's happened to male and I don't know if any of you are old enough to you know now is texting whatever similar but before him oh geez I mean I've had situations where I sent an e-mail to somebody and then you hear from you know here for a little bit near to somebody else like all they're really mad at you were you mean they're mad at you that e-mail you sent or what I say you know you can go back and read it well they said you did it well that's not what I meant to write but there's something that happens in even I'm using that as an example that if something is communicated in the wrong way or even perceive the wrong way it totally changes what you're trying to get across absence the lesson is speaking to the importance again this is kind of complimentary to the example part we talked about in the home before you're ever in any classes right how you communicate the totals avoid She is you know my thought is about the words not talking in a fretting tones to your children in an exasperated tones assume things like that which I wish I could say had never done but they have you can see you can sometimes you can actually watch a child with or under certain tone of voice and so these are things that are very important to have those 2 to cultivate these proper communication skills well going back to the lesson you find this in paragraph 3 of Tuesday's Yaz In other words good teaching works on the emotional and personal level as well in the case of the family as a school this is so very important a good relationship must be built between the student and the teacher and so are communicating not just. Facts and figures and data but you need to communicate in the character of Christ so that you can have that when some open continuing growing relationship that's right in the lesson also draws out the importance of establishing good communication prior to your children hitting puberty becoming teens because things change and I can tell you that with a teenager you know there's a whole new world that you get into and you don't want to wait you know children they start to kind of test you a little bit and they start to you know think that maybe you don't have it figured out and question you know whatever and it's kind of this testing period push back period and you want to have developed communication lines with your children by that point it might all be happy in mine I'll be happy communication you know that part of that communicate well I don't agree with you and I know it but you want to talk and that's right versus not talking at all and so that happens early and so communication is just key part of homeschool. Yeah education home education Well finally talking point number 3 is repetition deepens impression Yes And you know and the home you're only have so many stories so many words of illustration you go over and over and you might think well I need to and I hear this a lot of times like I want to go to school that has more often more so varieties of spice so I want more options when the reality is that a few things done the well is critical to quality education right and we draw this a lesson highlighted on Thursday and they go over Deuteronomy 6 which is your reading most to do around the 6th year in such a powerful chapter and obviously we don't and if I were teaching this lesson I wouldn't have time to get into all of it on a Sabbath morning if I wanted to cover the points of the lesson but I certainly would hope to include a little time so when the word Sabbath is the good stuff yeah well and I have to say that in talking points we don't look up a lot of the text just because of the time the constraint that we have but if but if you have heard loud. Or something illegal certainly would have looking these things up but I do want to look this up in Deuteronomy 6 versus 69. And I don't think it's wrong place it says and these words which I command you today shall be in your heart you shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house when you walk by the way when you lie down when you rise up you shall bind them as a sign in your hand they should be as fronts and between your eyes or it says you know as a sign in your forehead in the n.i.v.. Verse 9 you shall write them on the doorposts of your house and the gates so it should be etc Now this phrase in verse 7 you shall teach them diligently teach them diligently as is one Hebrew word in the Hebrew word actually is a word that means to wet or sharpen a blade and Adam Clark brings up this point in his commentary on that verse that the the sharpening of the blade is done by reiterated friction or grinding and he's made the point that it's it's using a term that's why it's not translated teach which the word means but to teach diligently it's to teach repetitively so the rest of the passage is explaining how that yeah legends takes place when you lie you know what you want by the way when you get it yes so. You know the words of God These lessons you know Bible stories and the nature lessons and all the things you learn about God You shouldn't just do well I covered that when you were 3 I guess we're done you covered again and covered again if you covered the right grind it almost into them that sound so negative but the reality is the reputational damage that impressed them upon your children is much like Isaiah $28.00 where it says you teach a line upon line precept upon precept here little here it's talking about that repetitive nature of teaching and we know that even in sermons you understand more if there is you know repetition repetition deepens impression Don't be afraid of not being novel with everything and being exciting and it's all exciting and new no repeat those sing them over again to me wonderful words of law. It's key in good education Well one of the good discussion questions is on page 19 the bottom of Thursday's lesson yes where referencing Deuteronomy Chapter 6 specifically verse 7 about how that diligence plays out in the life sitting down Langley you know walking by the way the questions asked What is the point here and what should it tell us about how crucial it is to always keep the reality of the Lord before not just our children but our own selves as well that would be a very good discussion question in your Sabbath school classes like what does it mean to be diligent What are some applications that in our life even today that's right in the Lord in Deuteronomy 6 is not to speaking for the kids for all of Israel he said you're going to in fact he tells me going to go to the promised land you going to be you're going to go away from me you're going to get comfortable cetera and so Moses write this down repeat it to the people so that it's going to get ingrained in their minds and all right so let's say we do all of this right all right good influence good communication therefore our children will be straight as an arrow for the rest of their life correct. Train Up a Child in the way they should go when he is old he will not depart from it what does that mean that's kind of in the context of this. When all said and done the best home example is not going to always yield the desired result and I have to be careful how I say that. We have expectations and oftentimes our expectations are dash because our children in the lesson highlights that they have free wills they have free choice and yes they do but I want to be careful to say that just because your child I mean parents come to me and they cite to me Proverbs 226 train a child the way it should go and when he's only want to play I sent my kid to have in the schools and they don't even go to church now they know this and and what about this promise of God Well I don't read this promise is saying train a child in the way that you go in have never do anything wrong and I never do I don't I don't think that's what it's saying I don't think when he is old he will not depart from it I think there's a period where kids test things but. What was it you said earlier this gives them the best opportunity to write a save and I've told parents that listen kids go and test you they question things in I had one pastor tell me you know when your kids hit teen years they're going to forget everything you told me I have to teach him again they're going to test everything to get it because they've got to learn it for the for themselves and you know I went through that in my life. But when the Lord was able to get my attention I wasn't scratching my head and say what do I do where do I go like you were talking about so they go off and they're sitting in the bar drink and they go like they forget that it's Sabbath or the forgiveness what they're doing is wrong in fact it's because they know that they know there's a border of boundary that's been established and they know they're crossing it they're making choices but you have given by that Godly bringing them a foundation for decision making that is their best opportunity to know God and choose for him so we can handle their choice of the lord willing to dictate the conscience but you can establish in the framework for dinner never going to enjoy sin like other people that's true it's not you know we're not in the not like I said I've been there I remember being in that that situation in there's a knowledge and there's knowledge of where you need to be the Lord can use that and I think of a statement of great controversy it's Page 98 speaking of John Huss and you know John his family was poor He's a he was an orphan from his father's angle as mother was a poor woman and it says here that when she had decided to send him to the University of Prague was all she could do trying to give him the best education and what have you says John Haas was accompanied on the journey to Prague by his mother we didn't poor she had no gifts or of worldly wealth to bestow upon her son. But as they drew near that great city she kneeled down beside the fallen asleep used in vote for him the blessing of their Father in heaven Little did that mother realize how her prayer was to be answered and you know it's just such a powerful statement when you think about what John Haas changed the world. We wouldn't be sitting here having this day if it wasn't for John Haas because that mother knelt down and prayed and their fathers mothers who knelt down to pray for their kids and they may seem like they're all here or there somewhere else but we have no idea we little do we realize how God intends to answer some of those prayer mercy what a powerful and peaceful comment we can leave this with the we'll do our best and of course it's always going to fall short but the Lord will keep it is somebody to say that he is mighty to say and let's bear his prayer Heavenly Father thank you so much for being a God who not only establishes these principles in the abject term but Lord you you work through us and you have promised to be with us and with our children as we seek to raise them in the fear of the Lord please Lord help us to be true educators and learners at the same time at the feet of Jesus we pray to Jesus.


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