2016 True Education Symposium

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Pattern Education

Jeanie Mabley

The Perfect Parent

Our Father, we come to you, our loving Heavenly Father, and we come to you in the name of Jesus, our Savior, our elder brother, our best friend, and our intercessor.

We need your help to be like you so that our kids can learn to be like you and be used by you to hasten your coming, finish the work.

And we just pray now that your spirit will fill us, bring all our minds into captivity, that we can hear you talking to us.

Well, I had lots of time just before I got here to think.

I had an hour, unexpected hour to get here.

Since last night And this morning, I have realized the importance of going back and reviewing what we learned yesterday.

Because when I asked my husband, do you remember what I said?

And I thought, oh, you have to review when you teach.

You got to say it, and then explain it, then say it, then test it, and use it.

So, I wanted to just review the 4, Maybe it was 3 things that we went over yesterday when we looked at the life of Christ.

That's extremely important to lay this foundation to build those beautiful characters in our children to be like Jesus.

We want to educate them, but there's more than just facts.

We want them to have a desire to learn and to have God's wisdom and to become useful.

So we stated yesterday that Jesus was in the country home, needed to be in a country home, but he was not in that ideal place.

But Jesus wants us to aim for that ideal home for our children.

And I just wanted to add, as I was thinking about that ideal home, Satan, we know, has done everything to fill our minds with noise and sound, all the technology, we know that.

And even I, who love nature, I was thinking when I get in the car, once the kids left home, I would turn on the radio.

And I listened to a good religious station, listened to a preacher, listened to music.

But since studying for this talk the last 4 months, I have been looking at the life of Jesus, the beginning life, the end life, and it dawned on me when I get in the car, I just want to talk to the Lord, just sort of meditate on those thoughts that I've had and not quickly turn on that radio.

And that's the same concept when we are putting ourselves in nature where we don't see our neighbors, we don't see other people to distract the thoughts.

It's not that we are not wanting to be neighborly, But our world is just so full of noise.

But for our children especially, We want to be sure we watch their environment, not to shelter them, but to help them hear God's voice.

When we supposedly had a country home, We had a neighbor on 1 side.

But we had a neighbor and they had little kids.

And we had big kids and we had a playhouse.

And so those neighbors, I remember, would come over to our house when we were having worship in the morning.

We had a nice porch with French doors down to the ground, and they would peek in the window at us when we were having worship.

And I look back and say, oh, we thought we were in the country.

And Mistakenly, I allowed my daughters to go to their house to babysit instead of coming to my house.

So their house looked different than our house.

And I just want to make that point that it's very important to surround your children with nature and nothing that will distract.

Okay, so country home and the second thing we went over was associations, which was the reason for the country home, 1 of them.

And really want to emphasize those associations.

That's a very difficult 1 when you're a parent.

We Parents want to socialize with other adults when we're together with families and it really takes self-discipline To have a focus on your children during that time and not let the children be with the children You are right with the children Children are good can be good, but they're still children.

You know, those conversations, they just, I have a hard time, especially on set with my conversations with other adults.

So parents, just remember, it's a hard road.

I was talking to my daughter about friendship, because she had a very hard time having a best friend.

And she said, mom, it wasn't so much there weren't friends, They didn't have the same values.

You're wanting those friendships, and it was very hard.

You just have to prayerfully go through that.

And the third thing, country home, associations.

His parents took time to teach Jesus the laws and the sacred history.

That time, parents, that worship time, morning and evening, no matter what, 7 days a week.

I know as I've been preparing for these talks, the last 3 nights I've thought, Oh, Lonnie and I didn't have time for worship.

You know, it just takes a discipline of constant discipline.

And I know Jesus, when he was in the busiest time of his life in ministry, he would get up a great deal before dawn, and he would stay up after his disciples probably fell asleep.

And maybe 1 just has to pray, Lord, you know the busyness of my schedule.

You could give yourself 2 hours and maybe 1 hour would be adequate or half an hour, you know.

Just pray the Lord will awaken you and give you the time you need.

And if that's your desire, I know He'll honor that.

We're watching associations and we're getting the time with the Lord, and the fourth thing we were covering was teaching that self-discipline, that self-control of the child, that self-government of the child.

And I have no idea what Beech was covered this morning.

Maybe she covered that, but that's where we left off yesterday.

And I'd forgotten to tell you this little test that was done that showed the importance of teaching that self-control.

It's called waiting for gratification, controlling yourself, and waiting or obeying.

And this study was done to some four-year-olds.

They were, well, they didn't know how they'd been trained, but the researchers wanted to know if waiting for gratification would make a difference in the future.

If these children, these four-year-olds, had learned that, would that make a difference in their future education, learning ability, success in life?

But they thought they wanted to find that out.

So they brought four-year-olds, 1 four-year-old child, into a room.

Or they could get 2 if they waited 10 minutes, just 10 minutes.

And they followed those children through to their high school years.

Every 1 of them that waited for that second marshmallow were leaders in school, higher academics.

It is a basic, basic moral skill and academic skill, really.

You're teaching an academic skill of self-discipline, of that self-control.

So parents, if you're just anxious to get that book in front of your child and get them reading.

Remember, it takes time to teach these other things.

And they're wanting to learn, and that's very good.

And you answer their questions, and you can do all that.

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