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GYC Southwest

For Women: Godly Relationships

Nicole Parker

Chasing the Knight in Tarnished Tinfoil

Water Lily White in a Sewer Pond World

Crystal Fountains and Slimy Cisterns - Part 1

Crystal Fountains and Slimy Cisterns - Part 2

Lord Jesus, you have promised to transform us by the renewing of our minds.

We ask that you will do that marvelous process today as we're talking about you and your word and how you change us.

Thank you, Lord, for your great love for us.

All right, Water Lily White in a Sewer Pond World.

Maybe this title is a little more self-explanatory.

I know for me, it was very difficult understanding how to have a pure mind.

And so this is a struggle I really wanted to talk about.

Now as I'm living on the edge of a university campus, I'm astonished at how many girls, not just guys, there have been plenty of guys who come and say, look, I'm really struggling with porn and sexual addiction and sexual thoughts.

But girls come to me and say, you know, I am really battling with masturbation, with lust, with an addiction to pornography.

And I've realized that this is something that is such an isolating problem for girls.

Every girl who talks to me feels like she's the only 1.

Somehow our culture especially emphasizes that for a woman, you've got to have a pure mind.

With a guy, well, guys are guys, but How can you do something so shameful?

So it's not like I'm gonna spend the whole time talking about masturbation, don't get excited here.

But I do feel like we really need to talk about how to be pure, pure women, not just in our bodies, but in our minds.

So I decided to call it Water Lily White in a sewer pond world.

You know, not long ago I was talking to a girl on the phone as she took her pregnancy test.

And for me, I was just going, oh Lord, please, please.

It was so different from when I took pregnancy tests.

And it's positive and I'm squealing with joy and then my husband wraps me in his arms and we pray together and dedicate this baby to the Lord.

She was hiding out in a bathroom in a Rite Aid and calling me and saying, okay, I'm ready to take it.

So we waited and waited for the results, and it was negative.

Praise God that there's not going to be a child who has to suffer from some of these mistakes this time.

There was just a couple of weeks before they had another girl talking to me on the phone saying, I gotta take a pregnancy test, I'm so scared.

I just had somebody email me too, I'm afraid my girlfriend is pregnant.

But somehow, sometimes we think that as long as we didn't get pregnant, well, you know, it was a mistake, but it's over.

But we forget what God is doing in our lives and what the devil is doing to pollute us.

You know, this girl said to me, I was a good girl.

How did this happen to somebody like me, saving myself for my husband and then to end up in this situation with my boyfriend.

Now he's dumped me, now I'm feeling devastated, and I'm struggling with this on top of everything else.

And I just wanted to wrap my arms around her and assure her It doesn't have to be that way.

All I could do is pray with her and encourage her, show her Christ does not see you as defiled when you have come to him and you've surrendered to him.

But we don't want to, in being wrapped up in the beauty of the gospel, get into cheap grace and say, well, God will always cleanse me later on, so it's okay.

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the culture, we can't even see what it is.

You know, when I was flying in the airport a few days ago, I looked down, I could see this blanket of yellow smog over the city.

But then when I was on the ground and we're driving away from the airport, I look up, the sky is bright blue.

When you're in the middle of something, you can't see it for what it is.

And that's what we have in our culture today.

It's like smog, this evil influence that's so permeating.

We hear about people like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt.

They're staying together and they're faithful and they're raising their children.

Better than what it is like in Hollywood for all these other people, right?

No, they're destroying the sanctity of marriage.

They're saying, we're not gonna get married until everybody is free to get married if they want to.

And I'm like, great, so what do you want?

What about women who want to marry multiple men?

They should be free too, isn't that love?

We've got to look at what God's plan was.

We talked about that in the last seminar.

Then I want to talk this time about God's plan for sex.

2 people who have given them up all other relationships as the most important relationships.

They say this relationship will be above all other relationships in my life.

I choose this person till death do us part.

I'm going to cleave to this person and they're gonna cleave to me.

Can you imagine what marriage would be like without sex?

My husband gets down on 1 knee and says, I'd like to ask you to be my roommate till death do us part.

We're gonna live in the same house no matter what.

You decide, till death do us part, I'm gonna be roommates with you.

We'll rent a house together, then we'll buy a house together.

No matter how rotten you treat me, I'm gonna live with you.

My husband and I get married and we promise, okay, I'm gonna do the dishes, you're gonna vacuum.

But no, God had something so much better.

He planned marriage to be an expression of his love to people who become more vulnerable with each other than any other people in the world.

In another seminar I did once, I likened it to a secret room that links your house with the house of your best friend for life.

And there's this secret room that's underground.

And the 2 of you are gonna have this room that you share.

Forever, the 2 of you are the only ones who come in this room.

You decorate it just the way that the 2 of you want it.

This is your secret haven where the 2 of you get away.

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For Women: Godly Relationships

Water Lily White in a Sewer Pond World

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